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writes: hi--i have been with my b/f for longer than a year. We already agreed a long time ago no single vacations--meaning no trips away like say to mexico to just be drinking all weekend and with friends without the S/O. He has agreed to it and sees why i am uncomfortable with something like that. So thats fineHis brother will be moving away to another state soon and i am wondering if my b/f will lie about something one weekend and say he is visiting his brother but possibly going somewhere with friends instead. Do you think this is something i should be concerned about? I know i should trust more about him not lying but its just an honest concern. I would be able to find out by just being on the phone with him while away? I know i shouldnt be concerned but i am b/c sometimes people will lie just to avoid an argument. I dont want this agreement to change but just wondering if its possible to use his brother moving as a loophole to get out of it. Reply to this Question
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (21 August 2006):
 You need to cross that bridge when you come to it... why worry over something that might not happen ? Also why wouldnt you be able to go visit his brother with him anyway ? make a break for the both of you maybe ? But well to show concern like this already, there must be something causing you to doubt him ? hes told you he is cool with no singles vacations, so why would he suddenly not be cool with it ? YOu need to give him the benefit of the doubt if you show that it bothers you then he will sense it and feel like you dont trust him. YOu have to relax accept that partners will sometimes do things on their own though, without us and need there freedom, dont go doubting him before hes done anything or you could lose him for no reason.
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reader, Hollie-marie +, writes (21 August 2006):
Hi ya
I have read your concern about your boyfriend and i think that trust is a huge part of the relationship and its the hardest part to, it is very hard to trust partners. Maybe you are looking into it to deeply unless he has mentioned about a lads weekend, you have been together nerly a year and what i have found with people is that a year will make you or break you, i think you should trust him and let him go but if you have a single doubt then maybe call his brother and ask to speak to your boyfriend then you will know. I hope this helps you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2006): Well of course it's always possible, but whether he will lie or not - no one will know for sure.
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