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writes:would girls go out with someone who is ugly but has a good personality? I'm bein honest here, i'm not very good lookin (and i'm not sayin it so people feel sorry and say i'm negative, its the truth) but i have a good personality.So would popular girls go out with someone who only has a good personality but bad looks? I'm 17, thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everyone for the fantastic responses. And when i wrote 'popular' i couldn't think of another word. I don't really care if a girl is popular but good lookin girls tend to be popular although i may be wrong.But when i was askin this question i had the girl i like in mind. And she is very attractive, but its not her looks i'm attracted to, its her smashing personality. I like her for who she is, not what she looks like.So in response to someones post, yes i would go out with someone who is not good looking because to be honest when people have attractive girlfriends they can boast about it to thier friends whereas with not so attractive girls they may not be able to impress their friends. I think thats plain stupid.But than again i'm lucky coz this girl i like not only is attractive on the outside, but is also attractive in the inside!So hence i posted the question if i even have a chance with her even thought i'm seriously unattractive! :) thanks guys, any more posts welcome
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reader, Amy2007x +, writes (22 September 2007):
 yeah i would ... i usual go for ppl who can make me laugh, and loads of people would find then ugly but i dnt care as its my life and not theirs :)
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reader, rockelle  +, writes (21 September 2007):
 Yes, I have always dated not so attractive guys. I personally think people who aren't so concerned with there looks tend to be more attentive to the inside. Which is what I am concerned with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2007): Your question is very hypocritical. You want the "popular" girls to date you based on your personality alone and not your looks. How hypocrital is that? Would you date an ugly girl is she had a good personality? Doesn't sound like it. Maybe you don't have such a great personality afterall, you need to adjust your way of thinking a bit here. By the way, I am not in high school, but when I 1st met my husband I was not attracted to him at all. As I got to know him I fell in love but that is b/c he was a kind, non-judgemental honest guy. And I was good looking, but not "popular" b/c I wasn't in school but that shouldn't even matter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2007): Yes!
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (21 September 2007):
 What makes you think you're ugly? It's not uncommon for guys to try a different hair style/cut, get highlights, and contact lenses, start going to the gym, in an effort to look better. And there's nothing wrong with it either. It could be that you just need to re-vamp your style a bit and then you'll really shine. Unfortunately, most girls in this age bracket do tend to go for guys that are good looking, but have hope, you don't have to be a knock out, just do the best you can with what you have and I'm sure some gal will sit up and take notice of you and your personality. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2007): Why do you want to date just popular girls?
Yes I wouldn't date an guy I wouldn't find attractive but it's a proven fact the more you see someone, get to know someone you see them as more attractive. One guy at work I thought was a bit geeky at first, I got to know him and thought he was quite an attractive guy! another guy asked me out and he was ugly and when I got to know him, he's personality was childish for his age so I didn't fancy him at all! Personality a big part
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reader, Hopskotch +, writes (21 September 2007):
 Honestly not at first..Cause almost all young people look at appearances instead of personality...but after a while you'll grow on them..reluctantly I've never had to show someone my personality...from the way i dress and the way i walk shows what kind of person i am...i have my own style..kind of...and i walk like i believe in myself....notice i said LIKE i believe in my self first impressions are always a plus...so stand up straight when you walk...and smile don't look at the ground or hunch over...be confident even if your "ugly" and someone will recognize you....and you'll notice that person checking out,
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reader, Sandman +, writes (21 September 2007):
 Hey buddy! To answer your question - consider this. When I was your age, I dated some very, VERY beautiful women (those girls were freakin gorgeous!) and I'm no sight to look at either! I mean, I was ugly (or at least I thought) and horribly skinny. HORRIBLY skinny. I think I might have weighed 110lbs (49.89kgs) when I was your age and was about 5'10". SKIN-NY!BUT, some of the women I dated were drop dead beautiful. So in opinion - YES, some women will date a man for his personality and not his looks. It HAD to be why those women dated me, it wasn't for my looks, right?Hope this helps.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (21 September 2007):
I find it interesting that you ask would the 'popular girls' go out with a ugly guy who has a good personality. Why are you asking about the popular girls? Generaly the popular girls can be shallow, so therefor they probably woudlnt go out with someone if they didnt have the best looks or a cool image...but that shouldnt matter to you. dont worry about those girls. worry about the non shallow girls nad how to impress them. you are young and MANY young people judge people by the way they look. so its often hard for someone who doesnt have the perfect good looking image to find someone at a young age. its generaly not until girls and guys mature that they realise that looks arent all that important in a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2007): It depends how shallow the girls are hun, unfortunately we are a breed that are divided. Some women find that for them looks are very important and others fall in love with people they werent initially attracted to but after spending time with them they cant resist.Im sure that you are over reacting about your looks, I dont like that you use the word 'ugly' as I dont think there is such a thing.Try not to look for love, its usually when you least expect it that it creeps up on you. Im sure you will have no trouble at all with the girls, if they are right for you. Take care x
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