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writes:Would any of you guys out there ever date a girl who has a child? It's just i was in a bit of a sticky situation and as a result of this am now pregnant. I am a lovely girl and dont want to be lonely for life. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much guys!!! I was quite worried, since i am only young myself, and am now a lot more comfortable.I would obviously but the child first, and then if a man were to come along and accept me for who i am... then fantastic.thanks again
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2007): You need to be careful when it comes to dating a man when you have a child. Not just because you don't know whose a pervert but because some guys might just be dating you until somebody without baggage comes along. You might think they're there for you, but really they're there for the practice when they do have their own child, and if you're willing; the sex. A friend of mine is dating a girl with a kid, but he's made it clear that he doesn't want more out of the relationship because he wants his own kids and doesn't want to take on another man's child. He's dating her until the girl he really wants to be with comes into the picture. He's there for sex; nothing else. I don't mean to sound harsh, but this is the reality of some men. I do hope things work out for you.
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reader, kenny +, writes (6 March 2007):
 Yes i would date a girl who has a child, why not. If i really liked a girl it would take more than them having a kid for me not to see them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2007): It depends on what she is like and what the situation is between her and the child's father.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2007): Since you're asking, this depends on how perfect she is to me, and before anti-martini's start stalking me here as well, 'perfect' to me includes all the flaws of the person as well. This also depends on how old the child or children are. If we met now, and developed feelings for each other, and her kid is about two years or less, then maybe, but if the kid is older, most likely not. Even then, it's iffy.
Exactly like what Childof1981 said, the key factor is that I want to date you, not your kids, not your family, only you. If we end up being together for the long term supposedly, great, then we can take it further and have kids if you like, etc. However, the time where we meet, become friends, become partners, lovers, etc, is a time for growth and development between you and I. Having someone else in there can be rewarding for some, but for me, my concentration would be too diluted.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (6 March 2007):
 Men are like women funnily enough, in that some will accept a package deal and some won't. Concentrate on your baby and see how the future pans out.
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reader, childof1981  +, writes (6 March 2007):
 This largely depends on the guy, but overall you will find few men who will want to date a woman with a child. I suppose that can change when the child is about 25 and not so much a child anymore.
I think the key factor that you have to understand is that men want to date you, not your child. Having a child is a big responsibility and the time/money that you have to devote to your child is time and freedom you can't spend on a relationship. Dating a single parent often feels like you are taking on the burden of having a child with a person when it's not your child, and that can scare men off.
More or less you will have problems balancing dating with your responsibilities as a mother, all the while hoping that your child does not scare men off. I know there are a few internet forums out there that have some threads about single parent dating, you may want to look for them for a picture of what you will face.
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