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writes:I met a man that is very charming. He lives out of town. He seems to say all the right things. He claims he had tickets to the SuperBowl in Miami this weekend but would rather come out and visit me and will cancel his plans. My questions is to the Super Bowl enthusiasts is: Would a man forego the SuperBowl for a first date with an attractive, successful woman? I am very interested in the feedback please Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the great responses. We did meet online. I was skeptical once so I backed off. In the meantime he got tickets from a friend (apparently he has connections) so he made plans. We resumed communication a week ago and said since he is travelling after the Super Bowl for two weeks he wants to visit me since we have not met face to face. he has a great job so I am not surprised he got the tickets. He does love football. He may not even show up. Who knows??
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reader, Beingblack  +, writes (2 February 2010):
 Hahahahaha!!!
Awesome!
I work in TV in the UK on the NFL programmes that are shown on a specific 'pay to view' channel. I have worked in this environment for nearly a decade, having played the sport for the National team, and watched countless NFL, and College games live in the US.
I have met many NFL legends, and current NFL stars, and will hopefully continue to do so in future.
So, as I live and breathe the NFL, the Superbowl is the single most important event in my calendar, behind my son's birthday.
I have never been to a Superbowl, and if I had a ticket, it would be stapled to my ass for safekeeping, because there is NO WAY ON EARTH I would miss the opportunity to be there.
I believe that you are both attractive and successful.
But believe me, if Beyonce, Mariah, J-Lo, Eva Mendes, Megan Fox, and the latest Playmate each personally called me, and offered me the night of my life, the Superbowl wins.
Most guys, who are lucky enough to possess a ticket, would say exactly the same.
Who is this man? Either he has no real interest in football, and he is spinning a tale to say that he would rather choose you over the Superbowl for 'nice guy' points, or he doesn't really have tickets, or his tickets are fake, or you are worth swimming the Atlantic for.
I hope for you that it's the last option, in which case, I'll dust off my swimming shorts.
However, I believe he is not being entirely honest. He might be trying to make you feel 'obligated' to reward him for his immense sacrifice.
Let us know what happens, if you can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2010): No, I am not that desparate. The date would have to wait until the following week.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (2 February 2010):
 I'm sure you are wonderful and smashing and he wants to spend time with you. But the Super Bowl? To have tickets to the Super Bowl and not go? Wow.
It sounds to me as though you are a bit dubious about his truthfulness and suspect that he may just be talking a good game, telling you what you want to hear. I would continue to listen to that little voice inside you, the one that remains a bit skeptical. If something seems too good to be true, it very often is....
Let me ask the obvious question here, if he has ticketS to the game, why wouldn't he invite you to go with him? Now THAT would be an amazing first date.
One of the aunts here suggests that people run background checks on those they are considering dating, especially those that they have met on-line. I think it's not a bad idea, to make sure the person is who he says he is. I know that's a bit cynical of me to suggest, but I think it's better to be safe. It's worth the $50 or whatever it is if things are progessing well, just for the peace of mind.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2010): Hmm... tough one. In this case I think well... the Super Bowl is only once a year I think (I don't know, not from the US), and it's a huge deal for most guys. If he has tickes, it's double the huge deal. Look, don't take this the wrong way, but Super Bowl = once a year. A date (or several dates with you = any time of the year. I'm SURE you're really attractive, interesting and successful. But don't count on him cancelling his Super Bowl plans. Don't take it personally. I'm sure he thinks you're even more special than the Super Bowl, but he just wants to enjoy both things. I mean imagine he can later brag to his friends: "I went to the Super Bowl... AND I have a super hot girlfriend". That will win him many manpoints!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (2 February 2010):
 No.
Well it depends, how did he get the tickets? If he is a fan who was lucky to get them, then no. If he just got them for free or something, then maybe. He could sell them and make a nice impression at the same time.
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