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writes:I might be going to meet a friend that ui realy like i have known him for 6 years and loved him for 5 years i was wondering how to tell him i realy like him and this is one of the rare occasions i get to see him . I was thinking of writing a letter explaining how i feel and when i meet him i would tel him how i feel and give him the letter explaining everything. Is that a good idea???? If it isnt then what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2014): I think it's a great idea!
I received a letter when I was young from a girl I liked and I had no idea. It was too late for me at the time and I wish I could sometimes go back in time. I almost remember every single word of the letter and I kept it for years. Go for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAplogies accepted rubybirtle .Well i don't need to worry about getting teased because now he lives in a different region of italy to me before we used to live near eachother and go to school together but now his parents had to move in a different region of italy for work during the holidays sometimes he may come over to visit me or i might go over to visit him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthats ok Rubybirtle i dont think id get teased because i live in a different region to him and i dont get to see him that often but before he used to live near me then his parents had to move in a different region but we sometimes see eachother during summer
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2014): write down your feelings then tear up the letter. You never know who will get their hands on something written. It is one thing to be rejected it is another thing for his family to read it and maybe his friends. It happened to me once when I was young.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2014): If you like him then just tell him in person. You're 13-15, so you've a lot to learn about love. Adults don't declare love for someone they've liked for a while, love happens once you're dating and you get to know them as a boyfriend or girlfriend, and even if you do think you love them before hand you certainly don't shout it out as quite often it will scare people off!He might be lovely a lad, but just remember if you write a note and he isn't as nice as you think he could show that to people and you don't want any one to tease or taunt you over what you have said.I'd just hang out with him, if he seems friendly and such you could say that you love having him as a friend and wondered if maybe he'd think about being your bf? If you really are too nervous then by all means write a little note, but don't make it a declaration of your undying love but you could just ask him out?! The worst he can say is no, in which case you can carry on being friends and you know where you stand. Good luck! Xx
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reader, RubyBirtle  +, writes (17 December 2014):
My apologies. I assumed this was you as this poster writes such a similar story
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-know-im-young-but-how-do-i.html
Maybe some of the advise that she was given will be of assistance to you.
CMMP's advice is good too and he also suggests that leaving the letter til the last day. You really don't want a crappy Christmas Day
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (17 December 2014):
If I was you I'd go see him and try to have a great time. If there's flirting even better, that way your body language will do let him know you Luke him. That will give him the chance to realize, "Hey, something is going on here..."
Then, before you leave you can give him a note. Don't go overboard on the note, just tell him you really like him and you have for a long time. Maybe a few more details. But not too much beyond that or you could scare him off.
If you never get to see him how would you be able to have a fulfilling relationship with him? It's something to think about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI haven't ever used this site before rubyburtle so i dont know what u r talking about i know i might get regected and yes i will be sad but i will eventualy get over it
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reader, RubyBirtle +, writes (16 December 2014):
You've posted many many times asking people's opinions on this matter over the past couple of months.Many people have discouraged you from reavealing your feelings to him, fearing his reactions might hurt you.Most adults don't come out with the "L word" until they've been dating exclusively for quite some time. Revelations such as these often end up driving people away if it comes too early.And what response are you hoping from him? Just about everybody in the world reveals their feelings with the hope that they will get "I feel the same way about you too" as a response. How will you cope with a negative response? Would you be able to cope if the response was hilarious laughter, a look of abject horror, the cold shoulder or the termination of your friendship?Any rejection hurts but you seem to be determined to do this so give him the letter ON THE DAY HE LEAVES to return home. That way you won't have a really sucky Christmas having to put a brave face on things if you get a really negative response from him.You said in some of your previous updates that you didn't really mind what his response was. If that's truly the case, then giving him the letter just before he leaves won't matter.Good luck
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reader, SamSun +, writes (16 December 2014):
I would say it boils down to what you are most comfortable with. If a letter can convey your feelings better than you can say in words, then go for it. However if you feel you could say the same sorts of things to him directly anyway, then you should not need the letter at all. One thing I will say is, just be sure your ready for any response you may get. If you get your hopes up and he does not feel the same way you could get hurt. Just make sure you really want to initiate taking this relationship to the next level and are prepared for your current situation to change as a result
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