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writes:Lets say that you are in a long relationship (over 2 years), and are adults (over 21 years old). You break up, time passes, ect. Would a girl ever ask/initiate the conversation to get back together? Or would she just try to get back in the picture. I think it is hard for guys to figure out girls for exactly this type of reason. We are expected to be the "guy", but if it was the girl who broke things off, we may just not get it that the girl is trying to get back with us if she is not express about it. What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2010): She wouldn't want to hang out, be in a rebound relationship, and act that way around you unless she still had feelings for you. She may not admit it at first though. If you haven't hung out a lot then don't bring it up becuase it may catch her off guard and she won't admit that she wants to be with you again. Be cautious and take it slow after a break up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOK, so we have hung out, it felt alot like we were still together, although I know she is in a rebound thing right now. She said she wishes we had more pictures together, talked about dirty things, ect. She pointed out pictures of herself, and tried to get me to tell her she was the "best looking" girl in them. She wanted us both to pick out the same bottle of wine, and that way we could "compare notes" later. These all seem very promising, but we had such a good, long relationship, its just teh way we are together, maybe they aren't "signs". Are these signs of interest, or is she just being friendly and normal around me? I would think she would have backed off knowing I'm her ex, but I am emotionally tied, and probably a bad judge of the situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2010): dont straight up ask her bc she might take that the wrong way. girls are sensitive. take it slow and see what she is up to and what she is thinking. you cant just generally ask how you know if she is getting back together with you bc thats too specific for a certain person. if you know her, you know how she is thinking somewhat. if you are wanting a hopeful outcome make sure not to pressure her or take too many steps at one time. you know her best, so use your best judgment. man, just hang out with her casually and get a feel for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2010): why dont you ask her straight up her intentions because you dont want to play any mind games.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOK... So would a girl ever mention getting back together, or just play games? (wanting to hang out, then flirting and stuff, which is unclear at best). What ways would a girl try to get your attention about trying to get back together? How do you know.
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (12 April 2010):
 It depends, if she broke things up and with time realized that she broke things off for the wrong reasons and you are actually a nice guy, she may have a change of heart and try to initiate a reunion. However, if you broke things off or if she broke things off because it was something to do with you then she will not initiate anything even if she misses you unless she is completely desperate.
Guys like doing the chase and most women like being chased, so unless she's told you to get lost and never speak to her again, I sugest you ask her out and tell her you miss her if you don't want to miss the boat and wake up one day to find out that she's moved on.
Good luck hun.............go get her!!!:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2010): It's extremely possible for a girl to bring up that convo, but it really depends on the person. All girls are different and have different ways of thinking and dealing with relationship issues. If a girl broke up with a guy and wants to get back together with him, she might try subtle things first. She may try texting, calling randomly, look for excuses to hang out or bump into a guy. If she is expressive, she will tell you what she is thinking and eventually present the idea of getting back together- but it may take some time. If she is quiet and/or stubborn, she most likely will not bring it up, but try to somehow contact a guy while continuing to try to show him how she feels in other ways.
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