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writes:Okay, my parents found out that i was goin out with a 25 yr old. we were really really in love but had been having problems just before they found out. They have stopped me from having any contact with him which is understandable they're parents they're doin wats best for me. But i left his life really instantly and dont know what he is feeling about this, i have started so many e mails to him but have always stopped them bekoz i know that somehow my parents would find out and i know now that it would be wrong to do so. Im just wondering if anyone would kno if a 26 year old would wait for the girl he loved turned of age? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2007): Love has no bounds.
Age has no bounds.
It is perfectly possible for a 25 year old to be in love with a 15 year old, believe me.
But it is irresponsible for them to act on those feelings, at least until it is lawfully allowed. Because these laws exist for a reason. And a damn good one at that.
Now the legal age of consent in my City is 16, but its still a bit taboo. And quite frowned upon.
I understand what you're going through, at 22, I fell real hard for a girl. I found out she was 14. So I backed right the fuck off and kept a friendship, and only friendship going.
She's now 17 and clearly not interested in me romantically anymore, but is one of my closest friends and has helped me through some real rough times with something as simple as a good talk.
Would I do anything now she is of age? No. I care about her way too much to push my advances onto someone who isn't in any need of them.
So, if he loves you at all... he'll wait. And if you love HIM at all, you'll back off and start with someone a little younger. Then you can get the experiences that will help you and this older fellow relate to each other more when you meet up again later in your life.
Because 31 and you're 20. It won't matter anymore, the age difference.
Good luck and all the best.
Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2007): There is a perfectly reasonable answer to this whole problem, and it's exactly the answer that you probably won't want to listen to:
You're too young for him. You're not only too young, you're so far too young that he's taking advatange of you for even dating you in the first place.
There's a reason that people object to 13-15 year olds dating 26 year olds. Like the fact that 13-15 year olds should not be forced to deal with a partner who is so far ahead of you in life that this issue even comes up.
If you were dating a guy anywhere NEAR your own age, then you would not feel this kind of pressure on you to tell him you're not ready to have sex yet.
I know the sex issue might slill come up with a guy your own age. But would you feel this same kind of obligation to a guy your own age? Like you "owe" it to him since he's in an age where anyone else would sleep with him? Of course not.
REASONS LIKE THIS ARE WHY THE AGE DIFFERENCE REALLY DOES MATTER!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2007): I disagree, When I was 15 i was going out with a 25 year old, he respected me AND waited until i could legally do things. eventhough it was ME that was the one that wanted to take things further before i was old enough!If he TRULY Loves you he WILL wait.BUT if it's not meant to be, its not x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2007): I disagree,When I was 15 i was going out with a 25 year old, he respected me AND waited until i could legally do things. eventhough it was ME that was the one that wanted to take things further before i was old enough!
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reader, pgissyd  +, writes (4 December 2007):
 Sorry sweety, but its highly unlikely.
I have to be brutally honest with you here, what is a grown man, a quarter of a century old, doing dating a child below the age of consent? From the adult side of this, that is highly irresponsable and totally unacceptable! I feel for you, having a crush on an older man is one thing, but being in love with him, and having him reciprocate in some way then not being able to do anything about it is sooo hard.
But your parents are right, not to allow this man to see you, its totally imoral on his part and so unfair on you for him to be toying with your emotions.
Hun, dont bother to contact him, if he truly loves you he will inderstand and wait without you asking. If he is what I suspect he is, then he wont wait, he will keep trying to contact you, untill you either give in or he gives up.
take care hun, im sure you will make the right choice xxxx
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