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writes:I have a problem with my own dad. He sexually abused me when I was 10 years old. I am afraid he is attracted to young girls. I know he has bathed with my niece who is 8 years old, and everytime she is over, he has her on his lap. I wasn't abused by my dad long, it was just about a three week thing that went too far. He and I would wrestle and more and more touching went on until he just lost his mind and performed oral sex on me. I was young and didn't know what to do at first, but about a few weeks later my dad told me he was wrong and wouldn't do such terrible things to me again. He kept his promise and I have since moved on. But lately I see him with my niece and wonder if he may be getting too close like he did with me. But how can I bring this up when It has been so long, I just don't know. Or maybe I am just being too naive. Please let me know.
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reader, ladydela +, writes (23 June 2009):
 forst you need to ask your niece if he has been doing anything with daddy that was wrong or ask her has he been touching her in "places" if she says yes call the police and tell the wife of your dad and also if she says no let it go it was over 10 years ago i know it was wrong but sometimes you got to forgive and forget
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (27 February 2009):
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Thanks for reading!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2009): Why don't you try talking to the niece and ask if any 'wrong things' have happened. It seems like he was very ashamed of what he did to you and i'm glad he didn't do it again, just make sure that he is not doing the same to her
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reader, cupids_friend +, writes (27 February 2009):
Okay I kinda know how you feel my lttle sis was raped at 6. But anyways what I would do is without just coming out and just saying it just ask your cousin or what not ask if he has ever touched her or got her to do weird things please I really hate it when things like this happens you have no comentment to it but will please let me now how things go I want to help in anyway I can
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (27 February 2009):
You may be the only adversary she has. Speak up! Althought it is a very uncomfortable thing to talk to your Dad about it, you need to show your concerns. Have a quiet talk with him. You don't have to accuse. You can try talking to him with something like I've noticed that you are getting extemely close to her as you did with me. That makes me a bit concerned. Chat with your neice about not letting anyone touch her in the privates parts of her body but if you suspect it, given his past it may be possible.
If she is sitting in his lap, it could be innocent however if you watch for other signs you may see more of the things that show sexual abuse. If you talk to her about not letting someone touch her in certain places, use a doll to show and let her hold the doll. Perhaps she will get the idea to show or explain to you if someone has.
Check this places for help in detecting and signs of sexual abuse.
Signs, Signals, Changes in Behaviors,Recognizing and Reporting sexual abuse or molestation in a child.
www.stopitnow.com/warnings.html
www.protectkids.com/abuse/abusesigns.htm
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_abuse
www.child-abuse-effects.com/sexual-abuse-signs.html
helpguide.org/mental/child_abuse_physical_emotional_sexual_neglect.htm
www.masskids.org/pcama/prevention/sexabuse_4signs.html
www.justmommies.com/articles/signs_sexual_abuse.shtml
aacap.org/page.wwname=Child+Sexual+Abuse§ion=Facts+for+Families
I was molested at 13 (almost raped a few mnnths later but the same man)and no one knew until I was almost 18 years old.I fought him off and I won...It was only by the GRACE OF GOD THAT I WAS SPARED and had the strenght to defeat a grown man. I weighed less than 98 lbs. I was afraid to tell, because it would affect others whom I cared for. If I had told then I could have saved many others from the same fate. However I was an innocent child and that part of my life had forever taken a big part of my innocence and faith in adults away. It's up to the grownups to watch over the children of our world. Speak up and perhaps you will save your neice from facing this tragic thing. Be sure before you speak out to others about it but take the time to do the investigating and talking it takes to help prevent her fate from being the same as ours.
I hope this helps.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2009): You should be worried does your family know your brother or sister whoever is the parent of your niece. If they don't you should tell them so they can be aware remember he promised you not your niece pedophiles have strange minds and he may think a promise to you is one thing and that he never promised her so be on guard.
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