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writes: Am worried the guy i slept with last week isnt interested! We are both in our late twenties, we went on our first proper date after it taking weeks to organise as we both have busy jobs, and he works away a lot. we got on great and ended up sleeping together, and it was a mutual thing. It wasnt the best performance, and he apologised saying it had been a year since he had had sex. This must be out of choice as he is goodlooking and polite (usually!). In the morning we were still quite passionate and he commented on how we hadnt been drunk the night before and so i never thought to mention us meeting again i just presumed we would though we had both said how crazy our diaries are up to christmas. now i havent heard from him. Ive just rung him once and left a quick voicemail. To be fair he wasnt great at texting before and dosent like it but not to hear anything is not looking good. Did i just get him so wrong or have i scared him off? I can sometimes come across a bit sexually confident and independent but i did try to say jumping into bed wasnt normally my thing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2006): I did exactly the same as you! After a few years we're still meeting up and like your man he isn't great at communication. Don't phone or text, fingers crossed he'll get back in touch, men like to do the chasing. It is a busy time of year for most of us and I'm sure that if he didn't like you he wouldn't have slept with you. Get on with your life and don't dwell on what you should or shouldn't of done. You enjoyed yourself at that time, so as hard as it may be at the moment you've got to sit this one out. Meanwhile go out and have lots of fun with your friends and if he contacts you then all the better!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2006): Well, sorry to know you haven't heard from him - at least, not yet.
A couple of thoughts: you both are very busy up 'til Christmas, and you said your first date took weeks to organize because of your work schedules. Hopefully, it might be less crazy after Christmas, otherwise it doesn't look good. However, if he really wants to see you again, he (and you) will somehow make time to do so, even if not very often. Would you be willing to see him once every couple weeks or so, if that's how tight your schedules are? Because that is what it might take.
Second, you slept with him on your FIRST DATE. Even if you did "try" to say that jumping into bed isn't something you normally do, you still did it.
What incentive does that leave him to want to get in touch again? You've already done what should happen after at least a month of dating and getting to know one another to see if you have similar interests and values, and how compatible you might be.
UNLESS of course you are "happy" with a one-night fling - and I get the impression that you are not, particularly.
I'm not saying he does not necessarily wish to see you again, but men do tend to wonder about a woman that has sex with them so quickly, you know.
And now: You did phone him and left a voice mail. That is really about all you can do. (Its not as if you've been dating for a couple of months or so, in which case you could wait a bit longer and then try calling him again). If he doesn't contact you, at least you can chalk it up to experience, and learn from it.
However, I hope you DO hear from him. If you do meet again, I'd recommend holding off on the sex for a while!
Meantime, try to relax and stay busy with preparations for the holiday season. LET US KNOW how it turns out!
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