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writes: I have questioned before for help about my sister and her boyfriend breaking up after six years. This is a continuation of the story. Well for the past 2 years my sister has been working at a horse farm during the summer between university. Her now ex wasn't so fond of the place. A lot of the workers drank all day and were pretty much drunk all day. And then there was the horse trainers, who hit on my sister a lot while she was still dating her ex. Her co-workers, including bosses, last year almost encouraged her to do hard drugs at staff parties, but her ex stopped that before it started. And now her bosses or glue best friend of 40 some years old while my sister is 20, gave her advice to break up with her boyfriend and date the riders that have been hitting on her. I have met these people and now they are the rough type people. I am very worried something will very bad happen to my sister with the riders (horse trainers) or even at the job site. She really just doesn't realise that some guys are after one thing, sex and then will leave and just take on that experience as and notch in the belt. At times before the break up, she would stay at the bosses house when they had a party and drank. But now they have become more frequent. My mom doesn't think she can do anything because my sister is 20. I also know that if you do something it can push her to do something stupid or just sitting in the sideline can accomplish the same thing. So what do you do? She hasn't been herself lately. I don't want my sister hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2006): oh dear iam so sorry to hear that have you tried talking to her about it letting her know how you feel. At the end of the day all you can do is be there for her when she needs you . You can offer her advice and at the end of the day it is up to her whether she accepts or rejects your advice.
but at the end of the day your sis is a big girl and has to learn to take care of herself and learn to have her experinces as well and experiences will teach her and help her to grow and develop as a person.
Any way best of luck take care mate
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reader, Tinkz  +, writes (3 July 2006):
 Unfortunately there is nothing you can do!
Speak to her tell her you are worried about her and that you feel the friends she hangs out with are no good! but if she doesn't take the advise then there is nothing you can do, she is 20 and she feels that she knows what she is doing.
I have sort of the same problem with my sister, her boyfriend speaks to her like she's dirt and he even hits her, but i've spoken to her and she doesn't listen!
All you can do is advize her and pray that she takes it the advise! But unfortunately it's one of those mistakes she will have to go through herself to understand it! and pray that she doesn't get hurt to badly.
Be there for her when she needs you because i promise when things go wrong she is going to need some one to go to and rather her go to you than to someone who will lead her in the wrong directions again!
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