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writes: I always feel like my bf is doing something bad when i can't find him, i dont' like the thought of him going to strip clubs or clubbing, he said he wouldn't go so i don't know, he's in canada right now. I got mad at him for not calling me like he said he would, and now he's shut off his phone for 2 days, i can't help but think he's cheating or something bad. He usually calls me before he sleeps. He's mad at me for thinking he will go to strip clubs or meet girls, and said if i think that again he wont' talk to me til he comes back, then at the end of the conversation he just assured me that he will call me, and i just keep waiting, waiting and still hasn't phoned me, phone has been shut off the whole time. Do u think he just forgot about saying he'll call me and just stayed mad about it or could he be doing something bad? This is really driving me crazy because I've been waiting day and night and still havent' heard from him, should i be worried about this? Do u think he could be breaking up with me or should i just keep on waiting?
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (17 January 2007):
 He is punishing you for accusing him. You have pushed him away.
you need to trust him to keep this relationship alive. If he has not given reason to doubt him, dont be paranoid. Stop calling him.
When he eventually calls you, be nice and interesting. Do not give him a hard time, long distance is bad enough, never mind wasting it in arguments and lovers tiffs.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2007): It's not easy but we do have to put some faith and trust into our relationships. We cannot and shouldn't tell them who they can or can't speak to. You will just sabotage your relationship. Nobody wants to be a prisoner in their own space. So back off a bit. Why not pop round to a friends. Go out with them. Keep yourself busy and i bet he will phone you when you least expect it. Also if you sit around mopping and he does ring, you will have nothing to talk about. Get yourself out there and stop being mopey.
Take care
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reader, eddie  +, writes (15 January 2007):
 Why are you making yourself sick over this You are ruining his time away. That's why he doesn't want to talk to yo. You've said it yourself. He could be doing a million rotten things, why do you focus on these two. Also putting restrictions on somebody because you're insecure is going to sabatage your relationship. You need to set up boundaries and live by them. They must be realistic though.
Why can't your boyfriend go to a club? Might he talk to someone, see a pretty girl, meet a stranger etc. These things happen everyday whether you like it or not. Let go of your feas, they will harm your future relatiosnhips.
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