Work/sports buds or more???

A female age 36-40, *ovely15 writes:

I've had a huge crush on this guy I work with for months. He sometimes says really cute things to me and compliments me (but I don't know if he says this to all girls or just me) and he is so attractive.. I get sooo nervous when I'm around him.. I can't even speak sometimes!! We've recently discovered that we both like volleyball so we've been getting together to play a couple times a week. We are definitely getting to know each other better and are mildly flirty which is very exciting! The problem is that it's really hard to tell if we are just vball/work buds or if he wants to date.. it's driving me crazy because since we see each other at work, I am very nervous to let him know I have more than friendly feelings. Since I want to spare the awkwardness at work, how can I find out if he wants more than just "vball buds" without directly asking him and if he's spending time with me outside of work, is that enough to know he has feelings?

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