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writes:Wondering if the guy I'm seeing is also seeing hookers..I found dozens and dozens of emails in his account going back and forth with hookers on Craigslist.He travels a lot, and most of the cities he was in, he seemed to correspond with the hookers in that city. I can't tell from the email if they every met up,they were very vague.Just things like "I'm interested.Let me know" There were phone numbers exchanged so I assume this is where the bulk of the conversation went down.In some of the emails though he did give them the address to his hotel,room number etc. When hes on these trips,I don't hear from him for days at a time. Then when I do, its only a text message or two.I confronted him and he says hes only playing around and has never met any of them, just emailed and a few times talked on the phone. Basiclaly just being bored in his hotel room.I'm wondering if I should just take his word for it that he didn't meet any of them because I have no actual proof that they met..or what? I'm really not sure what to do here. I want to believe that hes telling the truth but this is all very fishy.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (27 February 2009):
 Uh huh. Right. So he's traveling for business, gets bored, and then emails hookers, then talks to them on the phone. Just because he's bored in his hotel room. I would think some guys would order up the pay-per-view porn film and have a wank if they were bored. Others would head down to the hotel bar and have a few beers and chat with the bartender or other customers. Some actually do some work in the evenings, call their significant others to report on the events of the day, have some dinner, go to the hotel gym and then retire for the evening.
If he's bored in his hotel room, why doesn't he call you up and have phone sex?
Nope, not buying it. This does not pass the podium test. (This is where he gets up in front of a crowd and explains his decisions and behavior. I like it because it keeps the BS to a minimum.)
I would probably call my GYN, and go get tested for STDs. Then I wouldn't have any type of sex at all with him, until he had been to his doctor and was given a clean bill of health.
If you're not really a couple just yet, if you're just seeing him, if I were your girl friend, I would tell you to dump him ASAP. If you were living with him and had children together, then I might grudgingly admit that you had an interest in trying to save the relationship, but then you'd have to have a pretty thorough hashing out of the details and understand why he thought calling hookers was a fun way to pass the time. Somewhere in between casual dating and committed relationship, I'd be doing my best to save you from a guy whose idea of fun is calling hookers. How gross is that?
Come on, he's lying through his teeth. (Sorry, that just blurted out of me.) He's not just calling them, sorry, but there's more.
Run, run, run away!
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reader, Janicp14  +, writes (27 February 2009):
I wouldn't believe the guy. There are plenty other things one can do when they're bored than message hookers and ACTUALLY give them his hotel and room number. I think that's a dead giveaway that the hookers did come to his room, and seeing as a hooker is a hooker, they probably slept together or whatever else he wanted her for. I think it's best to cut this guy off; you don't realize what fantastic liars people can be especially when there are strong emotions involved. Take time apart, if he comes back to you, use your gut feelings to decide whether he's changed or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2009): Often, women get unnecessarily suspicious about their partner's infidelity.
Not so with you. I hate to tell you this, but the evidence seems overwhelming. Short of catching them in the act, you aren't going to get 100% proof. But I think you're pushing a good 99% here anyway.
Is your guy cheating? Who knows, but the fact that you don't trust him is not good.
Could he be completely innocent? Possibly, but who wants to be with a guy who "only chats" to craigslist whores and disappears for days?
Seems to me like you've come to this site to get a solid "yes" from someone, since you are afraid to believe the obvious. So here goes:
Is he cheating? YES
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