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41-50,
*orgiana
writes:Ok so I am 36 met this guy online about 4 months ago.. we hit it off dated for a month or 2 before we took the relationship to a physical place. The problem is, now that is kind of ALL it is. He is in the he middle of a divorce (legally separated) and a full time single father. His time is limited, but emotionally it feels like this is just booty call. Although when we are together it feels like the opposite. I am crazy about him but am worried he is just TOO emotionally unavailable. How do i figure it out without freaking him out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2011): He sees you as a free ride if you catch the point. I don't see you wanting a man to use you like that so nip it in the bud and don't give it up to him even if he tries to make it seem like it's not a use because it's exactly that. Find a man who will want you for more then sex. He's not the one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2011): I don't think there is anything to figure out as it is very obvious he isn't wanting more than a physical relationship. Best to move on and find someone SINGLE that is wanting what you want and isn't satisfied with just using you as a convenience or pick me up when he's down.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (5 February 2011):
 He's emotionally unavailable because he's in the middle of a divorce, and you're allowing him to use you as a distraction from it. If there was more to it than sex it wouldn't seem like that's all there is to the relationship.
He's in no place to get emotionally involved with anyone. Get rid of him and find a man that's single and emotionally ready.
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1 +, writes (5 February 2011):
Stop contacting him and let him do all the work. When you do talk to him be happy and nice. Next time you see him leave before you have sex but whatever you do...DO NOT ASK IF YOU ARE A BOOTY CALL. You will look like you have no self esteem because you should know that you are not. Just don't have sex next time. Say you have an early day the next day or something. Be sure to tell him how good of a time you had with him though. I would just relaxed because he is not even divorced yet and it will take him time to get over that relationship.
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