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female
age
30-35,
*achaparritax19
writes: Okay soo, i have been with this guy for a year and two months. We have been through a lot of things, great times, fights, anything that happens in a relationchip. well the thing is that now i been thinking bout if i really love him ? i dont think i should be doughting about that, but i am. should i talk to him about how i feel ? but i dont wanna hurt his feelings because i kno hot much he loves me. please help meeee. Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, erikaeriksone +, writes (22 September 2011):
As a person going through the agony of being the other person in a relationship like this, I must tell you something: If your doubt of loving him has begun to affect things in your relationship, if you two don't get on as well, if he seems more distrustful or depressed or more distant, then it is because he has picked up on cues that you don't love him. Of course, love takes time, be patient if that's the case. "Fools rush in" as they say. But if this is a matter of falling OUT of love, then you should do the merciful thing and let him know. I know it's a scary thing to break up with someone you've been with for that long; but if you ever did love him, then you should turn him loose. It could be a good thing for you, too. Sometimes being single is a good way to reflect on yourself; grow a little; and be better prepared for your next, hopefully happy, relationship.
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