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writes:Hí.I've been reading around and found some answers wich i consider a little scary. I read that women always remember previous sex partners and compare current partner with them. So i have a double question about this for women:1.- Wich's the reason you compare? is that unavoidable?2.- when you compare, wich one you use the most as reference: your first lover or your best lover?I know i sound a little insecure, but you should know that we are afraid of what is crossing your minds.thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all for your advice.This last answer was the kind of answer i was expecting, but they're all helpful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2008): I think it really is unavoidable! I mean we all have a catalogue of experiences, sexual and otherwise, so we compare things to one another. It's pretty hard not to do!
I've had several sexual partners and I compare penis size, technique, how long it lasted, how satisfied I was, what their bodies looked like, etc, etc. I use my best lover as my reference. My first lover was in junior high school when I was 15 and as you can imagine sex at that age is not very good and not really worth comparing anything to. So I really don't ever even think about THAT relationship. But my best lover, when I was 26, a man who could give me multiple orgasms and LOVED giving me oral, who was also very physically attractive (buff and gorgeous)... he is the measuring stick that all future lovers will have to live up to... damn if only that relationship could have worked out! Too bad he wasnt a very nice person outside of the bedroom- that's what really matters in the end. So focus on being loving and attentive in the bedroom AND out of it and you'll keep your girl happy.
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (6 November 2008):
 Hello, Just to add to Talktoomuch answer..I was with a guy once and he was inexperienced, nervous, terrified in fact and yet, when we had finally managed to "get there in the end" he thanked me. Yes, he thanked me and it has stayed in my thoughts for the rest of my life as a beautiful loving momnent. xxxx
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reader, passionatelynumb +, writes (6 November 2008):
 Talktoomuch,That was a really beautiful answer. Very well said. It helped me a lot and I didn't even ask the question.
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