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writes:I’m in my early forties and five months ago I started seeing a wonderful woman who’s 53. About us we meet the old-fashioned way, through mutual friends, she knew that i was single, and I know about her ex and her co-parenting relationship, she has 2 teenage boys…We’re getting to know each other, and we haven’t had sex yet. We kiss and cuddle. Anyway, the woman I’m seeing is physically active and in great shape.I need some insight from both men and women about sexuality with a woman in her 50’s. I sure she is no stranger to bedroom issues. I know that everyone is different, but I’d like to hear what your experience is when it comes to woman sexuality after 50.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2022): The guy who posted forgot to mention it is progesterone and estrogen that affects women and their sex drive etc. And any woman who still has her ovaries has this in her system, it only disappears if she has her ovaries removed. More often than not when a woman does not fancy a guy and he cant get to have sex with her or have it the way he wants as often as he wants he looks for excuses to blame - it's because it's her menopause/ she is tired and she has a headache or backache being the usual fall guys. Becuase he cannot face the truth - that she doesnt want him.
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reader, ccuzano +, writes (19 October 2022):
Menopause is tough for women and most men don't understand it. With menopause comes the loss of estrogen and testosterone and often times a loss of libido. Add to that that sex may become uncomfortable for a women due to vaginal dryness and thinning. That's the bad news. The good news is there are a lot of options. You said she is fit and active and this is great as exercise is very helpful. There's also vaginal estrogen products (creams, pellets, ring) than can help vaginal dryness and thinning (making it more pleasurable). Lubrication products are also very helpful (i.e. uberlube). Testosterone (while not FDA approved) can be replaced and estrogen replacement (i.e. prempro) can help a lot of women but does carry with it some risk of clotting. Of course talking about it and being supportive and understanding are the foundation to any good connection. Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2022): Or she may want more sex than before meno …. Every woman is different and most people have no clue about menopause
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2022): What do you mean by sexuality in women over 50? As a woman who is over 50 In not quite sure what that mean . We are all individuals and all different , just the same as women under 50 are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2022): If she’s in menopause she may not actually have a sex drive anymore (or not need/desire crazy sex at this stage of life) no matter how active or good shape she’s in. Why not talk to her about this? It’s been 5 months. Aren’t you comfortable enough with her yet to share your honest thoughts and feelings? All women over 50 are not the same. You can’t generalize. You’re in a relationship with her. You need to ask her.
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