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writes:Hi, need some quick tips please. I'm a 36 and recently single after a 15 year old marriage that I put to an end. I've never dated before and have signed up for a speed dating event this week. Any tips, dos and donts? I've also relocated and have few friends for now, and from noal habits i tell too much and then regret being homest. so is it considered okay to tell colleagues at work that I'm going for a dating event? Or is it something to keep quiet about?
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (24 August 2013):
Dear OP,
I'm just home from my first speed dating event and it was so much fun. I didn't meet any guy I want to see again, but everything was well organized and people were friendly. So, maybe you just want to try another agency?
Anyway, I can also recommend online dating. I know some couples that came together like this (and even married) and I also met nice guys there. Love didn't happen so far for me (but I'm difficult..really), but in your situation I'd do that.
I also think online dating would be good for you for two reasons: 1) You're probably a successful and attractive woman, so men might be intimidated by you in real life. When they meet you online first, they get to know you from a different side. You can put several pictures of you online, not only showing you in your business wear, but also casual or sporty. 2) You can pick guys with the same educational and financial background as you. Men you who have the same problems - being involved with their career and not many occasions to meet single women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, I kept it quiet as some of my closer friends weren't in the office yesterday, but the event itself was very sad. I looked it up on google but I felt the pub felt dingy, there was a professional stood there with a camera and just wouldn't stop clicking and the organiser on the advert wasn't the same chap; looked like it might have been contracted out. Plus they kept saying event sold out 25 singles attending but there were actually only 15 people in all. It's an adventure as I think to appreciate any good you have to have seen what bad looks like and this was really bad I must admit. I won't be going again. Any tips on how else to meet people - I generally come across as very happy, confident, and men tell me I'm extremely attractive but I think I give the impression of having a chip on my shoulder and am fairly senior so it's a bit tricky. I only meet men in conference rooms if you know what I mean.
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reader, Euphoric29 +, writes (24 August 2013):
Dear OP,
I'm also going on a speed dating event tomorrow :)! I tell my good friends about it but I find it's NOT something I want to discuss at work. It depends on the working atmosphere, but in general, I don't want to share more details about my private life than the colleagues would share with me. If they tell you about their dates, okay. But if you're the only single there, no, keep quiet. People who are in relationships often forget how hard it can be to find someone and they won't necessarily understand it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2013): I think you can tell colleagues, this sort of thing is very mainstream now. As for the day of the event, try your best to be relaxed and friendly. Have a few questions ready so you are not dumb struck. Don't put too much weight into meeting THE ONE, but treat it as a fun evening where you might enjoy chatting to some nice people.
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