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writes:hi im 23yrs and have been with my boyfriend for 2yrs,we love each other very much and have a srtrong relationship only i have one major problem im finding it very painful to break my virginity weve tried loads of times but it hurts me to much,im very embarresed i dont no what to do this has been going on for 2years please help me as im scared my relationship is going to end soon.
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reader, LittleTwoLegs  +, writes (2 April 2007):
 There are a number of things you all could do, if sex is really something you are wanting to happen. For one, hopefully he's done his research and can spend a long time heating you up before-hand. Also, perhaps you could share a glass or two of wine before you guys begin: it heats up the body making it more apt to become aroused, which will help you out a lot, not to mention loosen your nerves about it.
I think, though, he probably needs to work you with his hands more, for the time being, to slowly ease your body into getting used to the shapes and feels of what will be going on below, and his hand movements don't even have to immitate intercourse. If you're both comfortable he could just leave his hand in a certain position for a while, perhaps wriggling it a little bit, and maybe as time progresses apply a little more pressure or an added finger and so on.
Good luck!
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reader, blondie1994 +, writes (1 April 2007):
If he's pressuring you and going to end your relationship, then he ain't worth it.
-blondie
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2007): Sex for the first time is very painful. Was there blood when you first attempted to lose your virginity? If so then you have lost it.
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