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writes:I met my girlfriend via a dating site in early 08. We really clicked. Soon after we started having a relationship and were both very smitten. After six months some cracks appeared and I suspected her though dismissed this to prior relationships going bad and me expecting the worse. She had always told me she would never cheat as her ex had and she was crushed by it. When things seemed great around eight months into our relationship, one night I invited her over for dinner. She forgot and said she had things at home to work on. I had to drive to the shop near our places and drove by to stop in as I often did and found a guys car who she knew from the same site prior to me at her house. I walked to the door and through the window beside the door could see no TV on and the bedroom door half open, with the lights out. I knocked on the door and when she answered a few minutes later she was very harsh towards me and in her pj‘s. I noticed the bedroom door had been closed and a teddy bear which I had never seen was on the lounge also. I asked her to explain and she threatened if I didn’t leave she would call the police, which was really strange. She denies anything was happening, claims they were having drinks and chatting, nothing more. Though the guys is a bit of a self proclaimed ladys man. Our relationship is now over. Although with all I saw I’m 99.99% sure she was cheating, im still unsure. What do you think about this and also what do you think I should do?
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reader, Vessence +, writes (25 August 2008):
Vessence is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI would like to thank those people who have replied to my question.
If complete strangers can determine the same conclusion as I from my description of the events I know I was correct and not seeing things which were not there.
I despise liers and cheats so I will never have her back in my life, I deserve lots better then she is.
I would still like to hear anyones thoughts and opinions of this so please leave an answer.
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (24 August 2008):
 Hi,
well you say your relationship is over so I'm not sure what you mean when you ask what should you do.
I guess the answer is nothing, it's pretty obvious she was with this guy and she was deceiving you, so put it down to experience and move on, there is little else you can do.
If you are looking for some closure I doubt she will give you that liberty. Best just to do your best to forget about her and get back on that dating site. If you see her in the street shake your head and move on. Don't waste any more energy thinking about this one.
good luck.
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