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writes:Are we ok? BF and I have been together for 4 yrs. Live seperately. Lately we have both become almost too afraid to do or say anything to each other for fear of offending the other. I work fulltime. The fulltime shiftwork. He has only himself to consider. I have a 15yo daughter and an elderly mum who lives on her own but can be pretty much high maintenance. Sometimes I feel he likes to do stuff without me and he feels that i don't spend enough time with him! Is this normal? Will this be solved if we both bit the bullet and moved in together?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2007): Life is always tough when you have a 15year old, they are going through tough times, what with hormones etc. You have to have a future but please do consider your child. Would life really improve if you did move in together? How would your daughter feel about the situation? Would you be moving into his house, or him moving into yours? If thinks are a bit tricky now, i am not sure if moving in together would do the trick. I think i would try and keep things going for at least a couple of years until your daughter is maybe in work or has left home and gone to university, then you can concentrate on your happiness and future. Sorry if this is not what you want to hear and possible a different angle on the previous aunts answer.
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reader, leanne.od  +, writes (19 September 2007):
 yes! i think if you lived together, you'd interact more because even though your busy schedules in the day prevent you spendign time together, at night you'll be able to talk about what you done and find the common ground you appear to be missing at the moment. all that said, people do need their space to do the hobbies they like and see friends etc, so he is entitled to that but then maybe you ould go out once a week as a family and make sure you allow him to accept your daughter as his own, otherwise there will be a barrier put up between them and she will take advantage of this.
hope you live happily!!!
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