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writes:me and my boyfriend was together over a year he broke up with me monday cause the same girl that has been giving ur drama and touble since the day she found out we first met. he said he was tired of the drama and he was tried of me listening to the drama and listening to everything she said. the thing is we also have a baby together. i begged him all night last night work things out cause i blocked her off facebook so she cant talk to me anymore i got her out of my life with the drama. he said he needed to think about it. so i asked him again today and he said that i didnt even give him a day. he said that he just wanted a break from a relationship and that i should do the same. i really love him and want us to be together not just cause i want it but for our baby i dont want her growing up not having both her parents in her life together.. what should i do and what does he mean "break from a relationship?"
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 December 2011):
 the only person who knows what HE wants when he says he wants a "break from the relationship" is him.
but my gut tells me that there is very little hope for this relationship.
how often have you had to beg him? once? ok...twice... not so good.. three or more times? it's a done deal sweetie.
to help you cope with this I want you to figure out WHAT is it that he CURRENTLY does that you love... what is it CURRENTLY about him that you love? or are you in lvoe with what you WISH HE COULD BE?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2011): '[W]hat does he mean "break from a relationship?" 'As a guy old enough to be your father I can tell you he means he's dumping you because you went and got yourself pregnant and now you've turned into a clinging neurotic demanding shrew and he's not ready to be tied down with a kid. (Translation: he's a loser so he'll always blame someone else rather than accept responsibility for his own actions)."i really love him and want us to be together not just cause i want it but for our baby i dont want her growing up not having both her parents in her life together.." Unfortunately he also has to want you to be together and he also has to want your baby to grow up with both parents together. Right now he doesn't want either, and it appears things aren't likely to change anytime soon, if ever. All you can do is what's best for the baby. In a perfect world I'd suggest giving her up for adoption to mature adults who are prepared for the responsibilities of parenthood and could provide the loving, stable home every child deserves and you are years away from giving her.The realist in me says get a DNA test (because like every scumbag he will inevitably ask "how do I know it's mine?") to legally establish paternity and obtain a court order of child support. Sorry you had to learn such a tough lesson.
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