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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My husband cheated on me and instead of working it out he wanted a divorce. She knew he was married and didnt care, will there relationship last? He still tells me he loves me
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reader, reds  +, writes (7 May 2009):
This is a very hard question to answer. If iwas the other woman i would worry whether he will cheat on her when he gets bored. There is no respect in either of them so when the arguments start and they will,one or the other will say my ex behaved better than you. Sometimes these people will stay together for fear of looking stupid if they end it too quickly or the honeymoon period hasn't ended yet. Only time will tell. It is sad for you as we who are betrayed are just left to get on with it. I need to know more about the situation to help you further. Like were there any signs of problems in your marriage, is he going through a mid life crisis etc. I know how you feel as i am going through a real hard time myself. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2009): the question is not how long will they last, but how long he will keep lying to you and how long you will contnue to believe him. he is still having sex with this person and he is still with her. that is all you need to focus on. he is an emotional blackmailer, meaning he is still trying to keep you sweet while he has sex with his lover. in that way you hold on, putting your entire existence on hold. in this way, while holding on, he breaks your confidence, self esteem and "steal " from you. he subtely steals a good financial settlement from you, he steals your life as well.plse do not wait for it to end with his lover. your life is too precious to wait around for his scraps. he has disrespected you too much, plse have some repect for yourself by looking at the worst possible scenario. he is playing with your emotions, just wasting away your life. he is playing with your financial entitlement by keeping you on the side. soon when he knows he got you where he wants you, he will strike and divorce you and you will be financially ruined.plse investigate your finances, the correct term these days is "be financially fit". plse be wise about joint finances and do your homework. know what you are entitled to. he says he loves you but continues to have sex with his lover. you call this love? I call it an affair, a betrayal, disrespect towards you. plse see this horrible situation for what it really is. he is gone and is messing with your head, giving you false hope. plse take care and seel financial and legal opinion on what you are entitled to. good luck
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reader, Rousseau +, writes (6 May 2009):
Your concern is finding out how much longer your husband will be having sex with another woman? It seems that you should be the one pushing for divorce and he should be the one begging to work things out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2009): The odds are against it - once he's divorced (if that's what happens) he won't be quite so attractive to her. Half the attraction probably stemmed from the fact that he was yours and not hers. It could be that once he's all hers she'll move on to the next married man that takes her fancy.
Your guess is as good as mine though.
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