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writes:Okay, to put a little background into this for better understanding, my wife and I have 2 kids. One was born at the end of January this year, but with the way I am, I don't handle the infant stage very well. I have quite the temper and crying honestly just makes it worse, I keep to a strict amount of marijuana to level myself so it doesnt get to bad (Yes, it's out of reach, and yes it's legal where I am. No, I don't smoke it.) I'm extremely introverted and have a tendency to get into a depression rut.. I love my wife, and she returns that love, but ever since our first kid was born... I've been sleeping out in the living room because I feel the bedroom is just too crowded. This has resulted in far less intimate interaction with each other and honestly just making my depression worse. I'm not one for just emotional support, I prefer physical contact over anything, and I'm beginning to just feel a bit lost. I may just be kicking myself in the teeth making it worse because my own mental problems and thought process but I feel the need to ask for some advice on ways that this could be turned around. I honestly don't even know what I want anymore. The intimacy to return? Something to suggest that I'm not losing my mind and that it's normal to feel this way after having kids?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2018): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry, i forgot to add something that's actually pertaining to your answer. I'm the one who watches the kids during the day. My son likes to come into the room at random times of the night to take over half the bed and my wife co-sleeps with the 2 month old. It gets crowded.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 May 2018):
 Are you seeking professional help for your depression? If not then I think you should seek medical advice. Also if you have a temper and can't handle children then why on earth did you decide to have two? I can understand why your wife doesn't want to be intimate if the babies are left for her to look after. First thing you should do is go to your doctor to get help with the mood swings and depression, secondly move back in to the bedroom and take things one step at a time, and thirdly help out more with the children and don't make excuses why you need to take drugs.
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