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writes:Ok, so I asked this girl out. I wanted it to be a date, but because we're both quite shy and quiet people, I thought it would be eaiser to ask her out with some other people, so it wouldn't be just us 2. I think shes really beautiful, but recently, i've been going through some tough times with my mental health, and I will be seeing a phychologist soon. Its nothing serious, but it is affecting how I comunicate with other people, and it makes me really self-concious about my self. Im scared that if I tell her, she'll think im weird and then she'll hate me. im so confused as to what to do right now? Do you think I should tell her?
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reader, mandyx99  +, writes (27 June 2009):
 she wont think your weird she would think that your just very open with her and girls like that. she wont hate you either but its also better to get to know her better before you tell her best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2009): Dont tell her why do you want her to know ? treat her with respect and if she does the same for you then you know she might be worth telling your troubles to, get to know her first give yourself the chance for her to know you
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reader, Starlights +, writes (27 June 2009):
she wouldnt think ur weird if u told her, she'd think its cute u opened up to her.
& on the other hand u dont need to tell her the whole truth straight away, and leave it at that.
i wouldnt reveal all on the 1st date, let her accept u for you.
enjoy your first date without all the added pressure!
good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2009): okay dude,as a girl, if someone told me all of that on a first date i think i would be a little scared off,
and plus would you want to tell someone that you dont know all that well all these personal things?
my advice is just lay off a bit, when you think that she can handle it and if you trust her enough then tell her,
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2009): There's no need to spill your guts about everything in your life on a first date. No doubt she already knows you're shy -- for now that's all she needs to know. If this date works out, and if it's followed by others, and if after all that you start getting serious, then you can start bringing out your issues. Notice how many 'ifs' in that sentence?
Relax and enjoy the date.
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