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writes:She's in a relationship with her bf for 5 years. She has went through a lot of emotional hurt and once she told me her bf slapped her in past, a few years back. She broke up but patched back with her bf many times. She realises her relationship is unhealthy and has a possessive partner. Even recently, 3 weeks back, she cried because of her relationship. She started having feelings for me a year back and still do but its on and off feelings. Yesterday she text messaged me saying she doesn't have the strength to move if she breaks up with him and just can't leave him. She deserves to be happy. I don't want her to go through emotional hurt again and again. Will she be able to end this relationship for good?
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reader, Oregongrl1  +, writes (28 August 2010):
First i want to say the longer that they stay in a relationship! the harder it is to leave! it becomes a routine and attachment. and also they are so be littled and put down they don't think good about them selv'es anymore i know i was in one. and they just become very drained and tired and no hope for happiness or even wanting to start over it such a mind control. sounds like you really care don't give up on her my sister never closed her door on me and i finally got out of it. it is so hard i moved 3 thousand miles away i had too! and i started all over left everything behind have you ever heard that song by Rascal flats ( moving on) my boyfriend now, gave me that song! why don't you play it for her it's a beautiful song and so true to words. there are shelters that she can go to for free counseling that will help her and listening to other woman will also make her know she is not alone and that it is not a healthy relationship! stand by her and do positive things around her and tell her how you feel just be honest w/ her and let her know she is beautiful and does deserve better in her life! and that you are there for her but don't smother her just let her know you are there if she needs you.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (28 August 2010):
 It's going to take her awhile to get out of that abusive relationship, if she didn't leave for good after he slapped her then she's not leaving anytime soon. She already knows the nature of her relationship and continues to live in denial that he'll change, or that she deserved it..but she doesn't..Sorry but you can't help someone who doesn't want to help herself. All you can do is be her friend...or tell her you're going to call the police if he hits her again.
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