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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok. This guy and I started going out after we kissed randomly (i know, :(), we were pretty much as a couple for a week (don't judge us please) and then split. The thing is, we were sweethearts, like, saying cute nicknames to each other, being really sweet and everything. Now we've hooked up again and I made a huuuge mistake and we got into sexual things - not sex (he is 17, I just turned 14) and I feel frustrated because even though it was a big turn on for him I don't believe in it cause maybe he no longer feels the same about me - a sweet, nice girl, now he's more atracted but by the wrong things. I want a relationship with him, not something just for the moment. do you think he now wants me only because of sex? do you think it can work out? please helpthanks guys, really :D Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (6 July 2009):
 Hi there, sweetness!
It is clear that your head is in the right place. And it is very wise that you don't want this guy thinking about you just as a booty call or just wanting you for sex. You're better and classier than that - not to mention, a little young for sex (but I'll skip that lecture). I think that you should stop messing around with him physically - if he wants to get the honor of kissing you and messing around, he can commit to you and make it official. Don't be his "friend with benefits" - because then he will think he doesn't need to make the effort with you that a boyfriend should. You deserve all the respect in the universe, and he might somehow think less of you if you give up the sexual stuff easily!
You are a nice, sweet girl and he needs to recognize that and not just take advantage of that. And if he doesn't want to commit to you, there are plenty of guys who would love to love a nice, sweet girl like you. And they're the kind of guys who like YOU for who you are, the fun you have together, the talks you have and the laughs you share - not just the physical stuff. That's just a bonus.
Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2009): I as a guy wouldnt pick a girl just for sex thats sick. He probably has some feeling still. Ask him cause if my gf had a problem i'd want her to tell me
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