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writes:Will offering him money cloud his judgment? I was getting on really well with a man who liked me (but has a girlfriend) and who was temporarily out of work! Anyway, I really wanted to keep in touch with him so instead of just giving him my number I also said "if you need any financial help just call."Well he did call to borrow some money but now I'm confused to whether he justs wants to keep in touch for my money or for me! - What should I do?
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reader, Teacake  +, writes (19 November 2008):
 Do this only once and don't expect to get it back. If you give him money a second time that is going to be what your relationship is based on.
If he has a girlfriend you are just asking for double trouble.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2008): If you're not his regular squeeze - and perhaps even if you are - make sure you draw up a contract, legally enforceable, regarding amount and frequency of repayments if you lend a substantial amount of cash - and I mean like anything over 50 quid. Make sure he knows it's a loan and not a gift. Don't forget to include interest - the same amount you'd get from leaving it in the bank as a minimum. He'd pay considerably more for a bank loan.
The other thing is, don't lend any more than you can afford to lose.
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