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*icole_007
writes:Over the period of 3 years or so I was talking to a guy (lets call him Bob) I met online through a band. We had always wanted to meet but we didn't until this August when he came in from Iraq on leave. While he was here I met his best friend of 13 years (Fred) and I thought he was a really cool guy. Bob and I got along great while he was here but I found out after he left that I was just being used and pulled around. He had no intentions of a relationship with me. I began talking to his friend Fred and I became really attracted to him. We went on a date and from there we've been going on dates since September. We get along great but he has an issue that he's the fallback guy because Bob and I didn't work out. I like Fred a lot but he cannot accept that I'm being real with him and not just using him to get revenge or believe that he's not just a fallback guy. I do not know what to do to prove myself. He refuses to make us an offical couple although we act like it. Please give me some suggestions to make him believe that I'm real.
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reader, nicole_007 +, writes (21 November 2008):
nicole_007 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you for your input. I agree that it shouldn't bother him but unfortunately it does :( I plan on going along with the dating process and hopefully he'll wake up and see i'm being 100% real with him.
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reader, blazee  +, writes (19 November 2008):
 Before you where close with the bob right? thats why you felt the way you did about him, Fred should understand that you werent as close with him then but as you got to know him more, youve relised that he much more important then the Bob, and your feel much more for him. just tell him that you where close with 'Bob' but because of your brake up it has allowed you to get closer to him and realise that hes more important.
tbh he shouldnt be angry about that, if you hadnt had feelings for bob, you and him would have never met
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