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writes: I know, I know this is such a dumb topic to talk about but I'm at a loss. I'm 17 and still a virgin, nothing unusual right? But here's the thing I recently found out that out of all of my friends I'm the only virgin. I was totally shocked by this, considering that I am the second oldest out of my group of friends. Have I waited too long, is there something wrong with me? I have no idea what it's even like to be horny! None of my friends are pressuring me to do any thing sexual, God I am just so lost. I've never had anybody attracted to me and I don't want to lose it to the first person I date. (Plus the guys in high school only think with one head at a time.) Basically what I'm asking is not being sexually full filled at an early age cause me to never loose my virginity?
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reader, sarahwolf  +, writes (3 April 2010):
i am 20 and i am still a virgin, where my best friend lost it at 14, go at your own pace and with the guy / girl that is right for you, when you feel ready you will know. and don't worry your a girl most guys will jump at the chance at having sex so you will lose it one day if you want he he
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reader, Sad Girl !!! +, writes (25 March 2010):
 I think it's a good thing that your still a virgin. if i new what i no now i would have waited until i was married. then to have to struggle with all my kids. and if you wait until your married it's so much more beautiful . to give u r self to the man u love. and it's so much better to wait. i tell my daughter if he really loves u then he'll wait until he marries u..
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reader, daniellelittle +, writes (25 March 2010):
a lot of people (usually because of religion but not always) choose to wait until they are married before they lose their virginity, it's perfectly normal.
it also means you won't do something you regret
:) xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2010): Girls like experienced lovers. Guys do not. The idea of a girl having slept with a whole bunch of guys does not fill us with lust for her.
The main reason that your virginity can be a problem is because lots of guys don't want the potential attachement of being your first. But that's only a problem when the guy is not thinking about you very seriously and just wants sex w/o commitment in the first place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2010): i'm only 18 years old, yet i've slept with 4 people. although i don't massively regret it, i do wish i'd of waited for someone who meant more to me. If your happy the way you are, leave it and wait for someone who you want to have sex with, don't feel pressured.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2010): sweetheart, what are you thinking? self respect is the sexiest thing a girl can have. Don't throw yours away!
At 17 I was pregnant. I honestly thought that the pull out method worked because I was only 17! Given the choice now I would much rather have been a virgin at 17 than a mom to be.
Don't doubt yourself. Trust your instinct. And don't be in such a rush that you do something you may regret. I know lots of people (myself too) that regret early sexual exploits, but I've never met some one who regrets staying a virgin.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (24 March 2010):
 You're doing the right thing by waiting and not having sex with just anybody. A lot of people think casual sex is acceptable, and this is a shame. Just because a lot of people share a mentality doesn't mean they are right. You have to do what is right by YOU and not let your moral code be swayed by other people. You're right to wait; you don't have to worry about getting pregnant or getting some disease. A lot of people your age that have had sex probably regret it and wish they had waited... even if they won't admit to it.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (24 March 2010):
 17 is a very normal age to still be a virgin. Don't worry about it at all. It's great that you don't want to lose it to just anyone (that usually comes with big regrets afterwards), just wait until you're sure you're with the right guy: you'll be glad you did. Sex isn't a race: it's about quality and doing it right, not doing it early (and often badly).
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (24 March 2010):
 Just relax. In my opinion, being a virgin at 17 should be the norm not the exception. And you are very wise thinking it should happen with a very special guy. So like I said, relax, it will happen sooner or later. The best thing is not to have any regrets.
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reader, Entirely Unique +, writes (24 March 2010):
 I don't believe there is a right or wrong time to lose your virginity obviously within reason and legal age limits of course.
I believe you will feel right about losing it to someone when it feels right for you and noone else.
There is nothing wrong with being a virgin and until losing your virginity feels right I would be happy with staying that way.
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