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writes:After not talking or seeing an ex I cared about for over 10 years we recently reconnected with each other. By chance both of us are currently single but she is going through a divorce right now. We started talking and it as if we were never apart. The love I once had for her came rushing back and she was once again falling in love with me all over again. I'm not sure what happened but we hit a bump in the road and she began to back pedal. I know in my heart that she is the one women for ne and I truely believe she does live me. Our biggest problem is distance because I live over four hundred miles away from her but I would relocate if that is what it takes for us to be together and be happy. Recently she told me she needs some time to make sure this is right for her and her son. She said there is no one else but she just needs to find herself. I don't want to lose her again and I truely believe that we were given this second chance for a reason. I need to know what should I do? Should I give her the space she needs and if I do is this the end for us? I am lost without her what should I do? Also I have already applied for a few positions close to her should I continue with my plan of relocating or not or is this second chance destined to end before even given a chance to really begin?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (30 June 2010):
Stop everything and give her time. She's going through a divorce, and rightfully needs to make sure things are right for her and her son first. Her son must come first in all this, no matter what. He will be hurting, and the last thing he will want or need is for his mother to go from one man to another. If if it that she wants a relationship, she will come. If not, she won't. You need to stop making those plans just for now and give her the time she needs to make her decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2010): She must be very stressed out with the divorce going on and would be unwise to start a relationship without first ending that. It might be better to just support her and remain friends from a distance for the time being. I know that sounds hard, but also you could get implicated in the divorce. Just let her know you are there in the background and try to be patient. There are no guarantees she will want to be with you afterwards though. As she said, she has to make sure it is right.
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