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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid,I got married a few months ago and I'm now in a long distance marriage with husband working and living abroad. Since I work the weekend, it's pretty hard for us to meet and lately we've only managed to meet for a week a month- which is killing me. Anyway, my husband will be relocated here, where I live, in 5 to 6 months which is great. This awful distance will finally be over. Yet, I know he's always wanted to live in a cool city abroad and hates where I live and I am afraid that, once he moves back here, he feels suffocated and frustrated by this little town I love and of course I'm scared our marriage will crumble because of that since he might, one day, resent me for having him move back here. I talked to him about it, about how guilty I feel for making him give up his dream of living abroad but he told me his only dream and priority is living with me every day. Do you think he's being honest? Most of all, do you think he will eventually resent me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2013): "Do you think he's being honest?"
Yes, completely. He has zero reason to lie and frankly OP he married you knowing this would eventually be the case didn't he? He's not an idiot is he OP? Marriage is about settling down with the person you love. As long as there are plenty of reasonable employment opportunities, plenty of things he can do as hobbies in his free time and the people where you live are nice then I don't see how he'd ever grow to resent you.
Look OP, he married you which means he was willing to accept all the conditions that come with being married to you and when he said he just wants to be close to you he was being honest.
We can't predict how he will feel in 5, 10 years time anymore than you can say for certain you wouldn't be willing to move somewhere else if you can make a better quality of life for you both somewhere else. No one knows what life may bring OP.
I mean I'm a city boy, born, raised and emigrated all to big cities, I love them. I love the variety of people, the busyness etc. But I moved out to the countryside with my fiancée, a nice big house with a huge amount of land and my closest neighbour is a 20 minute walk away. I love the peace and quiet of being out here the people are lovely too and I'm with my fiancée, I'd live under a bridge in a dirty cardboard box as long as I got to be with her.
OP he's made his choice knowing what he's getting into, trust him to know what's best for himself OP. Instead of worrying about this why not look forward to it instead?
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