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writes: Hi! I'm 17 and have been with my girlfriend a month now. I've never been happier. But there is one issue that I find hard to overcome. My girlfriend was told by other people at the start of our relationship how far I had been with other girls, upto 3rd base. However i myself wanted to be more mature with my girlfriend - take things slower, shes very inexperienced and inconfident so I wanted to help her as well. However, We havn't gone any further than kissing and by this point I think we should. I don't want to scare her, or go fast but I think it's a neceassary part of a relationship. However I don't know how to initiate it, so to speak. I have a feeling she'll just push me away. Which I'll accept, but I'm willing if she is. Maybe it's a question of confidence. I don't know.
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reader, Your big sis +, writes (27 January 2006):
 There may be another reason for your girlfriend's resistance to your fast actions (c'mon 4 weeks is nothing), your ability to kiss and tell. She doesn't want to be just another girl on your history list. She's wise to wait it out to see if you're going to treat her better than you treated the other girls she found out about. If you care for her, you'll give her the time she needs to decide when she wants to go further. Take care
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reader, mystify +, writes (3 January 2006):
 a month really is not that long, especially for someone who lacks comfidence and experience, i can understand truley why this may cause you distress, but you will both enjoy it more when you are both ready
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reader, ferraro-lisa +, writes (1 January 2006):
All i can say is dont rush her ok she will tell you when she is ready, every girl has to find her confidence in the guy she is with and her self. it ay take longer than a month if she and you feel happy right now then you have to wait and not bring it up til you think its right. give her a chance to think about it. when she is ready she wil tell you.
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