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writes:Hi aunts,I recently did a two week volunteer placement and fell for one of the instructors there, hes 25 and i'm 21!Anyway, when I first started there I was obviously nervous and wasn't attracted to him straight away! After about 3 days I noticed him watching me and felt like he might of been attracted to me! The more attention I started paying to this the more I started to like him. I cant really remember how or when it happened, I just started to develop this huge crush on him! I found myself also not being able to stop watching him, and literally could not stop thinking of him. After day 6 I confided in a friend that I liked him, and told them that I really wanted something to happen after I left.Since I've left we've both been texting back and for, with him asking me for my number first, and hes now taking me out this upcoming Monday. Neither of us has mentioned liking one another, but there is a lot of flirting going on, and if he wasn't interested he wouldn't be taking me out would he?Anyway due to both of our hectic schedules I last saw him in person 5 days ago, and it will be 10 days from when i last saw him and our date. I'm now starting to over think things though. I spend all day thinking about him, and talking to him. Yet i'm starting to worry about the fact that initially I wasn't completely drawn to him? I didn't find him attractive when I first met him, and the more I look at pictures of him on his Facebook the more I'm starting to panic.I'm very fussy about who I date and every other guy I've dated I've always gone for there looks straight away, and then been let down by there childish personality's and views. I go for the typical pretty boy, who lives in the gym, has an amazing body but not much going on in there brain. Hence why its never worked.This guy is different, hes intelligent, more mature as hes older than me, and just a 'real' man you could say. Hes not fat or anything, hes just not into the gym so has quite a slim build. Basically hes not my type at all, but i cant help but have this massive attraction towards him and I dont know why. So its making me feel nervous about seeing him, and if my feelings continue to grow towards him. Im worried that because I wasn't completely taken back by his looks that this crush will fizzle out quickly or wont work over all.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (5 December 2013):
 you are OVER thinking this. You have a date with him, go and see if you click personality wise.
21 and 25 is barely a gap that's worth mentioning...
Perhaps branching out from the "pretty boys" will give you a chance to start finding what you want in a life partner.
Remember... looks fade with time and they can't be pretty gym boys forever...
for me I'd rather the man have something between his ears and a pot belly to a six pack of abs and the inability to talk about current events.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2013): Hi there!
I don't think spark would fizzle just because of looks.
To start off you like him the way he is. If what you fear happens, its because its not meant to be.
Its not because of his looks or whatever. You like him for him. Maybe your even in love w/him. because when you start to ignore the things that you usually likes or go for, it means something.
That's why they invented the quote, Love is blind. Actually its the lover who is blind. Also, don't worry about the future. Just make your Today fantastic. Good luck.
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