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writes:Will my ex realise he made a mistake?Honest opinion and advice and storys please :)My ex boyfriend and myself were together for quite awhile i moved in with him and he asked me to marry him but i said no in a nice way because i wasnt ready. After a couple of months of living together we were fighting alot. The fighing turned into a daily routine and than the sex stopped quite alot. One day i slept on the couch and the next morning i told him its getting to hard. He begged me to stay so i said i would come back in two days to talk. The next day he was begging me to stay with him. Later on he just stopped begging and i got worried cause i decided i wanted to stay with him. 1 week later he tells me he has a new gf. He told me that hes over me and hates me and i would always be his ex and that hes so inlove with his new gf. On his facebook they look amazingly happy with photos and everything. I was reading on the internet that it is a rebound because he rushed into a relation to fast and that he will eventrually want me back. Its been 4 weeks since we have talked and hes been with his new gf for 5 weeks...Im getting worried he wont come back.If you ex came bak from a rebound how long did it take them to contact you or tell you they made a mistake.. Honestly please guys :)
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reader, DH22  +, writes (19 January 2011):
I have been in this situation a few times, I was with my ex for 6 years and he left me on 3 occasions throughout our 6 year relationship and jumped into other relationships within 1-2 weeks of being split up from me(3 different women each time)... I always wondered how he could do this so freely, especially after i was always distraut and couldnt bare the thought of being with another man. Anyway within 3-4 months he came back, he always did, and saying the usual speel that he'd made a big mistake and he was sorry etc!...But to be honest after all that hurt things were never the same because i couldnt trust him, i couldnt get the thoughts of paranoia out of my head, i couldnt stop imaging him being sexually intimate with someone and it made me feel sick all the time. I found myself an angry person!! The first time he did it i should have realised and never taken him back but i understand its easier said than done.
I would just say to you be warned that now he's been with someone else you will feel second best no matter what he says and you wont be able to control your thoughts and it will most certainly come up in all your arguments because you'll resent him for it! If you really want it to work (if he does come back) then you need to properly sit down and talk and you need to feel re-assurred that he'll never do it again. The only thing i will say is once a man has got away with it once he'll probably do it again! Sorry if this is not what you wanted to hear but you asked for honesty :-) I hope things turn out ok for you. Good luck xx
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