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writes:Will my ex girlfriend come back to me?She told me that she was not in love with me and was over me. She started talking to this guy in her dorm. I love her and i did beg for her to come back. But i think that is why she told me she was not in love with me and was over me. I am giving her space now. I do want her back, I know she just really likes this guy right now. Is there anything i can do to change her mind about this? We have been going out for over a year. Everyone said its a stage shes going through.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2008): Give her her space and the No Contact rule falls into place. You still might have a chance
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): No, it was a gift not an engagement ring, let her keep it, don't ask for it back and act like you don't care about it....just move on and date another girl or two and don't be shy about letting her see you with someone.....take care, I am sorry she broke up, it happens to the best of us....Her wanting to keep the necklace may mean she wants a momento of you and your time together, she probably isn't all bad, now is she?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI gave her a necklease with a heart and love wrote into it. She asked if wanted it back when we broke up. I said yes but then she never offered to give it back when we can back down to college. I gave it to her cuz it meant something. She hasnt gave it back and i dont want her to have it. So should i just ask for it back? Cuz i dont want her to think i still care about her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): I broke up with my ex recently and i was begging her to come back too. she told me for a few months that she needed space "didnt know" if the feelings she had for me were the same or not.. (bullshit) well anyways on the day she finally broke my heart she cornered me into a question of if i still had feelings for her... after beating around the bush i came out and said yes i still did. And i asked her and she said "she wasnt sure still" and i told me to tell me honestly.. and thats when she said "honestly i dont think there is ever going to be a future in us again." BOOOM! right? well after i argued and made more of a scene cause this was an issue we were dancing around for several months i just told her.. "this is dumb, well whatever feelings i had for you have just went out the window" and didnt call or respond to her for a week...during that week i had my birthday and it helped me realize how baller i am and all the friends I have. Now im not saying you have to be cool to make this work... But you want to play off as a Baller, just a sick individual who is awesome at life and pretend to completely forget her. If she is your friend she will go nuts and want to know whats wrong and push for you two to hang out more.And when she does talk to you, treat her like that random ugly girl who's nice to talk to and work that bitch's emotions.Basically you need her to want you.and what do girls want? confidence, cockyness and alpha dog male.think about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): No one can tell you what to do, sounds very creative, go ahead with your plan, I am sure she will be smiling, but she may not want you back and feel pressured instead,,,,people want what they cannot have so I would think you would be best to move on, date someone else, create competition, and let her see you out with another woman, that will turn her head upside down...but it is your choice, stars sound like a lot of work since the sky will not be dark on her side of town....
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOK im thinking about sending her some flowers. with this saying itI hope you smile when you see this."Each time I miss you, a star falls down from the sky.So,if you looked up at the sky and found it dark with no stars,it is all your fault.You made me miss you too much!" Look under your bed.Then when see gets the flowers. I have made some origami stars. made about 30 of them she will get the flowers on fri..and i got to go to her house and put the stars under her bed. Each star has a quote in it..Should i do this or not?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou guys are really helping me.Ok I do want to be friends with her.I care and love her so i can show her this by being with her.She did say she wanted to be my friend and a boyfriend but that was a long time ago. When we were first dating...I didnt think about the friend.Im alreay her boyfriend why go back a step?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2008): We all think we feel this at one point or another. Think about everything that you've been through in life. How many experiences have you had? How much have you learned? How do you think your ex-girlfriend is going to feel about you if you dont let her move on? I know right now you probably don't feel like it but things will get better and you will move on in life. You've got so much time ahead of you. Remember the past. Live in the present. And forget about the future. If me and my guy ever broke up I'd still want to be friends. Ask her if she wants to go hang out with a few of her friends and yours. Ask her about her life. Try to be the best friend you can be. Maybe she's just trying to see how much you care. But you can't make her love you. But you can still be there for her. Who knows if you're there for her and this guy doesn't work out. You can comfort her then and she'll see just how great you are. But cheer up. Have fun. Live your life. And never forget her. But like I said. Just try to be her friend and don't push anything onto her. Maybe she'll come around but not with you trying to make her. Good Luck!! =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2008): If you want her to take notice of you again, then the best thing you can do is move on and be happy and successful. Act like you are not dying over her and like you have alot going on even without her. I'll give you a good example. My sis broke up with her high school bf just when they moved to college. Even though they were both at the same college, I guess she all of a sudden saw him as a small fish in a big pond, and perhaps lost interest. She really underestimated him and probably all of a sudden felt he wasn't as cool as all the other guys she was meeting. But your first week in college, of course you have no friends and aren't "in" with the crowds and stuff. But I think she just thought he never would be. Well, he certainly didn't sit in a corner and cry or acted pathetic. Right after they broke up, I am sure he was sad but he also moved on right away. He got in a really popular fraternity, made tons of friends, became really popular. He was involved in all sorts of stuff. He would run into my sis and was very nice to her, held no grudges. According to my sister girls were really crazy about him. And he graduated and got a great job travelling. I mean he did not waste a second dwelling over his "failed" relationship. Instead he seized every other opportunity he had to get ahead and be happy. And to this day, my sister has so many regrets about leaving him. It stung her so bad that she let him get away. Because he proved her wrong. He turned out to be better than all the guys who she once thought were better than him. And this same story has happened countless times, to me and to alot of people. When you value yourself enough to move on and make the best of what you still have and of all your other potentials, they always regret it. Given the right circumstances, alot of people you date will take you for granted. Not everybody will love you unconditionally. The fact that she has taken you for granted is a huge clue right there that you should not waste another tear on her. Prove her wrong. Prove to her that you were definitely worth her love. Get out there and get accomplished and do stuff and make friends and have fun. But also hold yourself out next time for a girl who will actually love you unconditonally.
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reader, Andy00  +, writes (3 February 2008):
 You're at the first stage, my friend; Denial. It's normal. You're thinking this is only a temporary thing, because she has other things on her mind. She hasn't just said that she wants to break up, she has told you that she doesn't love you anymore. It's a horrible thing to say and I think you must focus on her words; her mind is made up here.
Furthermore, she has started talking to another guy, so she is trying to move on with her life. If I were you (And trust me, I WAS in your position about 7 months ago) I would try and tell yourself that; she can't be the one for you if she first leaves you, and starts to move on.
Perhaps it's just the time (taking your age into account). There's nothing to say that somewhere down the line you won't hook up again, fall in love and spend the rest of your lives together, but at this time, all signs point away from that, so you must try to focus on how she is moving on, and you must follow her example. Don't try and find a new relationship just now (I'm guessing that right now you aren't even thinking about meeting anybody new. Again this is normal) but go out with your friends, and do fun, active things that you like to do, and start enjoying life again.
At our age, we have a LOT of learning to do about life and love and many lessons lie ahead. This is just one of them, and it is a hard one to take on. But if you can focus on moving on and enjoying your life, happy times will lie ahead for you. So, don't despair! The best in life is yet to come your way.
The best of luck to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2008): Asking if your girlfriend will come back to you is a bit like shaking those novelty eight balls when asking a question to get an answer of no, yes, maybe, not today. No one can answer this question for you honestly.
If you have been dating this girl for a year and you are only 18 to 20, it is most likely time for this relationship to end....remember the good things about this time in your life, let your girlfriend go with love, and leave her alone, she has expressed to you what she wants, no amount of begging is going to change her mind, only she can do that. If you go off and do your own thing she will respect you more than if you cling on, let her go, and if she comes back to you, then if you still feel the same, you can decide then if you want her back in your life.
Clinging on to hope is keeping you from being available to someone or something else, and you don't deserve to wallow in this kind of self pity, it gets you no where. Sorry you are feeling low, this too shall pass, this is not the love of your life, you haven't had much of a life yet, so the best is yet to come, you'll see.
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