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writes:Im a girl and im really hurt.My ex and i broke up a month ago. We were gonna get back together , He told me "He loves me and only wants to be with me"... Behind each other back after the break up hewas talking to his ex and i went out for dinner with a guy. We both got really angry. I than heard from his mate he has a new girlfriend and they are already having sex. I than confronted my ex and was really angry about it and begging him to be with me and than he anouced.."Dont contact me anymore i dont want you anymore ive moved on i dont even like you actrually i hate you , im inlove with my new gf and so is she(they have been together for a week) and hes more beautiful than you better kisser and better body and i love her more than i ever loved you"....I was so hurt. I deciced to not contact him anymore. Its been 2 weeks and stil he hasnt contacted me. Do you think he will realise his after the honeymoon period with his new girl is over that he wasnt inlove he was inlust and he still loves me and wants me back.I read on the internet that he could be in a rebound relationship. I already heard "dont be with him hes horrble but i just want to know if hes gonna want me back at all".. ADVICE PLEASE
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reader, omega1234  +, writes (10 January 2011):
I'm sorry to say but I'd second what CindyCares says.. Move on girl.. Don't let anyone have that effect on you! He doesn't value you, then let that be HIS loss.. The best revenge you can get is actually letting go.. move on and enjoy your life..
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (10 January 2011):
 Honey, honestly, the way you put this question, you need a fortune teller, not a DC Aunt. How can we tell you what he is going to do in future ? At most we can advise you about what YOU could do - since the only person over whom you can have control is yourself. Reason for which, the advice you have been given ( Move on because he has been horrible to you ) sounds good to me. Are you sure you want to be with someone who can be so harsh and disrespectful ?...
Anyway I guess you want to know which are the odds that he changes his mind . A totally wild guess , I'd say something like, 30% yes, 70 % no.
It is true that his new relationship sounds just like a rebound one , and it probably started also to spite you. It is also true that , if he is around your age... people move on fast at this age, particularly males. They have much less trouble shutting a door and opening a new one.
Also, ( and sorry for having to twist the knife in your wound ) from what he says he is a superficial guy who is much into appearance, if this is a very good looking girl he rapidly may develop an attachment, based on his ego and not deep feelings, but strong enough nevertheless.
What you could do is - not put your life on hold for this guy , or any guy . Keep the no contact thing, give yourself , let's say, another month ( more or less ) to hope... and to recover from the blow - and if he does not come back to you within the time frame you have set ,- then make a conscious choice to move on. Date other boys, keep busy with school , sports, hobbies and friends, ...pinch yourself any time you catch yourself thinking of him. Life is too short to waste it after those who do not appreciate us.
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