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writes:So i have a few dilemmas.comDilemma #1: I have been dating this guy, who lives 7 hours away, for about 4 months now. I feel so in love with him. He is my evrything and I want to be with him so bad. My problem is I also have a daughter with my ex so I dont see how me and this guy will work out if I cant move to be with him. And he wont move here with me I've asked him.Dilemma #2: My ex is a good man. He's pretty much ur great guy evryone asks for. The problem is I dont find myself physically or sexually attracted to him. I was just wondering if this is something that can be worked on or fixed. Or does this mean there could never be an us because I dont want to have sex with him or kiss him for that matter.Please and thank you for any great advice!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 March 2012):
 Dilemma one, to be honest with you I am unsure how this relationship is going to work out long term, have you both sat down and spoke about it? Obviously you don't want to move away and take your daughter away from her father, which is great, good for you because she needs both her parents in her life. If he is not willing to move to be with you then you both really need to talk about where the relationship is going to be honest because I cannot see how it will work out. Sometimes love is just not enough.
As for Dilemma 2, well if you are not attracted to him then you cannot force yourself to be with him just because you both have a child together. Obviously there must have been an attraction there in the past as he is an ex and he is the father of your child. But I guess if you do not want to be with him then there really is no point forcing it. It sounds to me like both of these men are not ideal for you at the moment, just remember though that there is no harm in being single for a while either.
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reader, shazz1991xoxo  +, writes (21 March 2012):
 personally i think you are better off with number 1 it seems u really love him, as u stated urself u don't even wanna kiss ur ex, thats not a good sign, u should never stay with some1 for the kids sake its not healthy for either of yous xoxo
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