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writes:I'm deeply in love with one of my closest friends. She is a co-worker. I think that she has feelings for me as well, and the major reason nothing happened before is that we worked in the same office. We no longer work in the same office however we do still have regular contact, mostly via email (which is a lot every day). My questions are: is it ok for me to confess my feelings? Will it ruin our friendship? Should I just be grateful with the relationship we have?I find myself thinking about her very often, and lately those thoughts have been keeping me up at night. I don't fear rejection as much as alienating a close and trusted friend, of which I don't have many.Can I escape the "friend zone?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): I'm just getting out of a relationship, she is currently in a relationship, which makes it very difficult. I am going to give it some time. I have to figure out my life a bit first.
As for the background, she used to be my boss. I have since been promoted and we are now at the same level (we're both branch managers for the same bank). The level we connect on is rare, that's where my major attraction comes from. I'm just too much of a chicken to risk what we have for more, at least right now. Maybe a few months from now, after my relationship has been over for a while, I might approach her. "you'll never know unless you try."
I have very deep feelings for her, and really don't want to lose what we have. Unfortunately she still haunts my dreams.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2009): Hi, ive just read your friendship fears. You do'nt mention you're history with your friend: once co-worker. Have you dated another colleague before in that office? Have a quick risk assesment, will anyone else suffer as a consequence to the two of you dating? If not enjoy! but if so
i got one thing too say 'what go around come around' good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2009): I say ask her out,,b/c most relationships form as a friendship.You wont to be with a person you have a bond with.I think you should ask her out,email her saying that you'd like to go out with her b/c you would like to see if your friend ship could be more than what it is.If it could evolve to a relationship.Tell her that if you didnt ask her out you'd reget it,it would be a thought that was never answered.And you wont it to be a reality b/c you love her and she fills a part of you,and without her it would be a void,or a puzzle peace that wasn't added.With out it the puzzle would be incomeplet and without her your incomeplet.
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