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writes:my ex and i where frineds after our brake up and the friendship was going better.he always wanted to be there for his step kids. he always said they where his. now his new girlfriend of 5 weeks has told him he can't be friends with me or be there for the kids he loves. that he has to focus on there future together. I know she's lied to him and hurt him deeply already [i've not said anything negative about her and tried to be her friend too for him] she's called my daughter checking up on him to see if he's talked to me behind her back. My daughter is devistated. yes she had "daddy" wrapped around her little finger [she's12] and daddy spoiled her rotten. do you think this[rebound for both of them. his new girlfriend has been"married"5 time befor.left the last one for my ex} is gong to last? she seems very controling and self centered. eveything seems to be about what she wants.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2009): We can't know this, but what I am certain about is there are many people who put up with their partner's controlling ways, your ex may be one of them, this depends on what keeps him in this relationship and how he goes on to chip away at the negativity they run across in such conditions. Also, it turned out many times that rebounds have less chances to work out but you cannot know if this case will confirm the theory. This should also be of little importance to you once you are able to carry on with your life and find a new partner. Until then I deem it is important that you make sure this new relationship of your ex does not harm your dear ones in any way, and I specifically refer to the phone call this woman made to brazenly check on you by asking your child. I would make sure this point gets across to your ex so your child will not be disturbed again. Maybe you should have a talk with your ex to suggest him to make an effort to maintain contact with your daughter having her best interests at heart and finding a way to do so without harming his current relationship. If this fails and your ex lets this woman decide in his stead that he should not see his own children then maybe you are better off without him around, this proves he is at least weak-willed, he will probably have to pay an alimony and limit the contact if he gives in to the girlfriend's request (or already has?), there is not much you can do in this case than try to make up to your daughter for the pain this situation causes her, be strong for the two of you and hopefully she will grow to appreciate your courage and support. All the best.
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