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writes:I had sex with my ex bf few times 4 years back, he is slim and had a below average penis, some time still hurt me, even having a lot of foreplay and use lube. I think may be I am have a small vagina. I am ready to have sex with my new bf soon, he has told me that he has a penis near to 8" few times. I didn't pay much attention to it, i saw it last night when we were playing around, I am shocked about how big it is. He is almost double my ex in length and width.Since I felt pain with my ex, does it means that he will hurt me during much first time with him? I remember the feeling when I lost my virginity and it was horrible, I am afraid to feel that again. I think my new BF may be too big.Will it be like the first time or will I have to stretch even more?
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reader, Chrissy_Pooh  +, writes (7 February 2015):
I'm not even gonna sugar coat it it's gonna hurt. But you should talk to your current boyfriend tell him that he's bigger than your previous boyfriend and that your nervous about having sex. And whenever you guys do have sex make sure you gets lots of "warming" up before he starts and make sure he goes slow otherwise it'll hurt even worse. But in the end the pleasure is worth it. And in the morning your thighs are going to be sore, but I'll give you one of my remedies. It helps to take a hot bath it takes the pain away
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 February 2015):
 You do know that 10 lbs babies come out of a woman's vagina from time to time, right? a NEWBORNS head's circumference can be 10-15 inches... THE vagina HAS to be able to let that through. Women who gets C-sections because the babies are too bit.. it's the PELVIC "hole" that is too small.. which has no bearing on the size of your vagina.
That a vagina is NOT a tube. It's a muscle build more like a balloon, than a cylinder. IT will expand IF you are aroused and relaxed. It might be a tight fit the first few times because you will be tense. TELL your BF to go slow and to REALLY "warn" you up first. And DO have lube available. Though your body should produce plenty (less if you are tense/scared I would guess)
And don't forget he doesn't NEED to try and put it ALL in.
If it's unbearable, go see your GYN.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (6 February 2015):
 I don't know how it will be, but I think the best thing is if you tell your new boyfriend about your concern. Do not mention your ex (men do not like to be compared to an ex, especially when it comes to the penis, no matter what). But you should say your concern about pain. Tell him you have a small vagina that is very tight, and that you have experienced pain before. Tell him that you worry he might be too big, and that when you have sex you need to go very slow and just see how things go.
He needs to know, because if he's unaware then he might go at it without a worry at all, and end up hurting you. But if he is told about your concern, and if he knows his way in the bedroom, then he will know to take things slow. If there is enough lube, it is slow enough, and you feel relaxed and comfortable enough, then I do not think there will be a problem. It might be that your ex was trying to compensate for his small penis, by going at it too roughly, which might have been the cause for your pain. If lovemaking is done right, with attention to your partner and not just focusing on one self, then there should be NO pain at all.
However, IF you have a small vagina, and he has a large penis, it might take time before your bodies get used to one another... So things might be uncomfortable for a period. Also, it might be that it just wont work. But this you will discover in time.
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