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*michael
writes:I am a virgin and i was just wondering, if my first time with a women that is also a virgin, will it be painful for her or me, or both of us at the same time and how painful is it if it is painful? And i know that a woman bleeds after her first time and i just wondered really how bloody does it get? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2009): Doesn't hurt men at all. Might hurt a women, particulalry if you're well endowed, and, if so, make sure she's turned on, and enter her slowly with her toes pointing to the ceiling:) After just a very little while, she'll love it, particulalry if you're thick.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (27 March 2009):
 It may hurt for her, but every woman is different. My first time did not hurt at all.
I have never heard of a guy hurting from his first time, but I am not a guy, so I cannot give an answer. My ex lost his virginity to me, and he mentioned nothing of it hurting.
there may be blood, yes, but that depends on if her hymen is still intact. Physical activity, masturbation, and even tampons can all tear a hymen. Unless she know her hymen tore from riding a bike or gymnastics, or anything else, then I would try to have an old towel on hand. Fold it over so it's thicker and she can lay on it. I bled quite some bit my first time, but again, this varies.
Use protection also. If you use a condom, have water based lubricant around. If she is on the pill and has been for a few months, then you can use a spermicidal foam or gel as backup. Read the instructions.
Good luck, have fun!
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reader, mama2be +, writes (27 March 2009):
well it all depends on the women, and if her hymen was already broken or not. some women dont feel pain, others it HURTS LIKE A BITCH! mine was painful. the guy should not feel pain, if you do there is a problem. for the guy its pleasureable (i am a girl so not 100% sure, but thats what ive heard) for the girl. she can pop her hymen (pop her cherry) from sports, falling, tampons, fingering.. many differant things can break her hymen, if its not broken, then it does hurt. usually it hurts for a little while and then you really get into it and then the next day get what i call a sex hang over. i got it idk if its commen but i was really sore after my first time for the next day. the 2nd time, it does still kinda hurt but not really, and the 3rd time is just OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! iits amazing.... i cant really answer about the male feeling pain because i am a female, but as far as i know, the boy just feels pleasure
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reader, Confusing Medows +, writes (27 March 2009):
 Well I honestly can't say dat it'll hurt u much @ all but in will hurt her. It will hurt her for atleast the 1st three times but it really depends on the girl. Not all girls bleed the 1st time so ur really just goin to have to wait and see how it goes. If she does bleed it wont be overwhelming or anything so dont worry.
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