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writes:It's been a couple of years since I was last in a long-term relationship, but there's a girl I've been getting to know over the last few months and I feel like something could happen between us. Here's where it gets complicated. One of her best friends is a girl I've known for about 8 years. I know it sounds cheesy, but I'd say she was my dream girl. I'm not gonna describe why, but that's how I feel about her. A few years ago she asked me out. I sort of turned her down because I wasn't ready for a relationship at the time (boy do I feel stupid now). Since then she's been with a guy for a couple of years, now she's single again.We all went for a night out recently with some other friends, and there was a lot of eye contact and touching between me and the second girl, which was unusual for us. Neither of us were really drunk, so now I'm wondering what her feelings are towards me.The problem is we've gone to different universities and I probably won't see her until Christmas. I thought about getting in touch by phone or facebook to ask her, but I think it's better to do these things face to face.So should I wait to see her at Christmas? I'm worried that I could miss my chance. And what about the first girl?
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reader, Miss. communication +, writes (5 October 2009):
 dear will i miss my chance if i can't wait?
As you said your letter is complicated. In my personal opinon i think you should wait a bit longer than christmas to ask the first girl out.
i know you said that you like the second girl, but i think your heart is with the first girl. you've known her for longer and have great history, like you said you weren't ready to go out with her when she asked you, so why not give her a little time then ask her, let your true feelings out and see what happens. as for girl two i think you should be just friends.
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Miss. Communication
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (4 October 2009):
If you're feeling this way, then at least let the first girl go. It's apparant that your feelings aren't as strong as they should be for her, so set her free to find someone who can give her everything. Meanwhile, if you think that someting could happen, then it's worth chasing this, even if only to find out that it can't. That way you won't regret not taking the chance. But let the first girl go.
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