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writes: I was dating a man for a year and we broke up, then 6 months later got back together. While we were back together, we visited his family in another state. While there, I met a friend of his brother's and we really hit it off. But I ignored that, since I was with someone else and wanted to make that relationship work. Well, since then, my bf has broken up with me again. The man I met told me he is coming to my state this spring. I'm wondering if it would be out of line for me to contact him and ask if he would like to meet while he is here? I don't want to look cheap to my former bf or his family, but hey, he's the one who's rejected me twice. Of course, this new guy might also be seeing someone by now, but I'd like to take the chance. Ultimately, my question is, will I look like a floozy for approaching someone I met while with someone else?
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (18 January 2007):
 Let him know you are available and see what happens.
You are single and it is your decision who you date now.
Never mind what others think, you did nothing wrong.
Do not waste your life, go for it and enjoy!
Good luck
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reader, Lilly223  +, writes (15 January 2007):
 No, you won't look like a floozy for approaching this guy... not if you do it in a simply friend like manner. "Hey, I hear your going to be in my neighborhood, how about we get together and let me show you around... maybe we can catch up on what's been going on in our lives since we saw each other last." That way... you can see him, you can find out if he is seeing anyone else, and you can remind him what a wonderful person you are. If he is in another relationship, you will find out and will have just met up with an old friend, if he doesn't have a girlfriend, he might start thinking of you as potential material.... win/win situation.
Go for it!
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reader, CarrieMagdelene +, writes (15 January 2007):
 Hey, good question! I say go for it! If you know the man you want to meet very well, go for it...Your old boyfriend has no say in the matter unless you let him. :) If you are scared of coming across as a floozy (great term!), dress a little conservative, and be very polite in all aspects around everyone, even one on one with your guy. Good luck and enjoy life! -Carrie
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (15 January 2007):
Who cares what they think!! People are always so quick to judge, some people will ask for your side of the story and others won't and will judge you anyway. All that matters is that you know you are doing the right thing, and in your case, there is nothing wrong with your suggestion. The man you met has told you he is coming, indicating he will be in your area and is interested in seeing you. You are interested in seeing him. Go for it, and let others judge away. Your real friends will get your side of the story.
Good luck.
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