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writes:For the past 18 months or so, I've been in love with this guy. We've never done anything, apart from stuff via webcam.It's been on and off always. When it's off its completely off and we don't even talk any more, but when it's on, we'll talk on msn till early hours of the morning, I'll walk past him and feel him watching me, and when i'm talking to my friends, we'll both just look up and catch each other's eye.His friends don't like me, and are shallow and would seriously disapprove if he told them about me. They're 15, so I suppose they're allowed!I'm a year younger, and not very popular. It doesn't seem to be a problem with him, but his friends don't like it.He goes occasionally to a club, where he'll kiss girls and stuff. He's told me that he'd kiss me, like with tongues, but we never have the chance.Is there any point in pursuing this relationship? I know people will say that i can't be in love because I'm young, but when you can't even think straight because of them, when you feel so happy that you could cry, when you want some one so much, I think that means that I'm in love.Please help.
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (18 January 2007):
 He likes you but is to embarressed to do something about it. It has been 18 months.
question is, is he mature enough to ignore his friends and date you properly. Not msn crap!
I don't understand why you never had the chance to kiss but have the time to be on msn til early hours. Arrange to meet and communicate face to face.
Talk to him and either he likes you or he doesn't. Either way you deserve to know where you stand.
good luck
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (15 January 2007):
All of the feelings that you have are true, and if you feel in love, you are in love. But being in love and being in a relationship are two different things, especially at your age where you are just starting to learn about love and relationships.
Think about what you want, and then communicate it. If you want to kiss this boy, fine, go for it. But how do you feel about him kissing you, and then deciding that he wants to kiss other girls still as well? You need to decide if that is ok for you. Maybe you want a boy who will only be interested in you while you are dating.
My point is, spend some time thinking about the relationship you want with him. Then when you are talking or on msn, find out what he wants. I know this is difficult, but don't be afraid to learn the truth. Believe in yourself, and that you deserve to have the kind of relationship that you want with boys. Then ask for it. If he wants the same, then great. If he doesn't, that is sad, but at least you were honest with yourself and with him, because the truth will always come out anyway. And if he doesn't, at least you know, and in time you can start to look for someone who will want the same kind of relationship as you.
Good luck.
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reader, heartxbrokenxgurl  +, writes (15 January 2007):
 omg when i was in 3rd grade i was in the same problem me n my b.f at school would go out then he would break up with me the next day then the next day at school after that he will ask me bk out n i would say yes cuz i rele liked him then the next day he would break up with me again n then the next day after that at school he would ask me bk out n that went on for 6 days so we went out 6 times broke up 5 but the last break up i did cuz i went up to him n told him i was tired of him breakin up with me every other day then the next day ask me bk out then i left cryin my eyes out n went on the hill at r school n just sat there cryin i sat there cuz thats the place he asked me out the 1st time n i sat on the spot where he asked me out i liked him so much i remembered where he asked me out n wut spot of te hill he asked me out at so wut i would do is dump him n find someone else that wont do that to u
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reader, cd206 +, writes (15 January 2007):
 Your age is not at all relevant in whether you can love someone. Some fifty year olds have never known love while some 15 year olds swear they have. What makes me think you're confusing love with lust is that you're so caught up with the idea with being with him that you're concentrating on the way the wanting feels rather than what it feels like to be with him. What his friends think of you is neither here nor there. It doesn't appear that he cares what they think about you and really how he feels is the most important thing. What makes me wonder about him is that you say he's said he wants to kiss you but not said anything about wanting to go out with you/be your boyfriend. It makes me wonder if he just sees you as a conquest. Be careful if you do decide to pursue this relationship. I hope it works out well for you.
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