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writes: Hey guys, I know this is asked a lot but it's an issue I have to deal with. I'm so discouraged by my penis size. I'm a 16 year old boy and when you look at me you see a buff looking guy who you'd a assume has a larger than average size. But that's not the case. My penis is roughly 6 inches when erected and it's one of the reasons I have love self esteem. I already have other things going on in my life, but this is one thing that bring me down. Because I'm so small, I feel like less of a man. My self confidence is lowered, and I tend to shy away from the conversation when my friends are talking about penis size. Because I know they're pretty big, they've told me, and I can tell, I've seen. So I feel like I'm the weak one out of the bunch. Is it possible that I may get bigger still? people still tell me my voice is really high. I never noticed till recently listening to myself in a video. And if I don't grow is anyone gonna wanna be with me with a barely 6 inch penis? I'm gay/bi and I know guys can be very judgemental when it comes to penis size, so that's one thing that scares me.
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reader, Nithyanala  +, writes (22 November 2010):
 "On the other hand I've seen 90lb 5 foot nothing Thai transsexuals pumped full of female hormones with 8 or 9 inch cocks".
I know, I'm one of them...
Having said, that, being very bi and having a lot of experience with men, I can definitely confirm that 6 inches is average (out here in Asia, on the higher side of average in fact) and further that there is no co-relation between physique and penis size. What you have is a size all women will love and enjoy. I've often had women fear - literally fear - to have sex with me because I'm as big as I am.
You're fortunate, if anything.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (21 November 2010):
 At your age, every boy is going through these questions in his mind. There is a small possibility that your penis will grow as you get older. Males typically don't stop growing until they are 21.
How big you are or how small you are generally has no relation to what size your penis is.
I hope this helps. And if you are really concerned about it, talk to your doctor about it or perhaps a trusted parent or relative.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2010): You're driven by porn and rumors amongst your peers, and that's it. A line of erect men in a line will average about 6 inches (I've read about 5.5-5.9). Sure, some will be 8 or 9 inches, a very few will be even bigger. But many will also be 4 inches, or 5.5 and skinny, or 6 and a total pencil dick.
Hw do I know...well, group sex in college and the fact I am mildly bi. You are NOT small, and women will LOVE that size...and you are not done growing. eat right, exercise and stay confident and you will probably add up to an inch by the time you're in your 20's.
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reader, soon567 +, writes (21 November 2010):
“Is it possible that I may get bigger still?” Sorry but No. A male stop growing around the age of 15 and it want get any bigger. It’s the veins in your body and nothing else. If he well-endowed at the age of 35 than we was like that at the age of 15. You’re wrong about being with females though your fight a battle that you can never win. If you were too big then she would pull away and that would lead to a sex relationship. If they’re was away to enlarger yourself than as soon as she gets use to it then you will feel small to her once again, so what the point. 6 aren’t that bad at all. Now if she starts reading a book or falls to sleep than you let her know that’s it very insensitive. Sorry I couldn’t help that. You’re ok.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2010): There is zero connection between strength / body size etc and penis size indeed if there is any relationship it will tend to be an inverse one because guys with smaller dicks will work out more to compensate.
I'm a big guy, maybe 290lbs. I'm getting fat and middle-aged now but if I weighed 230lbs 'd be able to say "it's all muscle". I'd be very surprised if there are any people I know who wouldn't say that I'm the strongest man they know. AND YET, my penis is only around 5.5 when in action and when out of action it pretty much disappears altogether. On the other hand I've seen 90lb 5 foot nothing Thai transsexuals pumped full of female hormones with 8 or 9 inch cocks.
I let this issue bother me a lot during my teens and early 20s. Don't let that happen to you. After decades of research and literally hundreds of data points I can tell you that:
a) confidence is everything, if you let the size of your dick effect the way that you think about yourself then you will come over as unconfident and in a sexual context an unconfident man is an unattractive man.
b) in western countries about 15-20% of women have a strong preference for a big cock. In Eastern countries that falls to perhaps 5%. Steer clear of big / tall girls and very aggressive girls and you will avoid most of these.
c) most women probably prefer an average or slightly above average penis however you can very easily compensate for that with confidence and technique. Specifically, if a girl has already had several orgasms before your penis gets anywhere near inside her then she really doesn't care that much how big you are you are still a great lover as far as she is concerned.
d) in my part of the world a cock which is too big is actually more of a handicap than one which is a little below average. I have a friend whose life is made miserable on account of the fact that his cock literally won't fit anywhere in China ...
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reader, KeighleySky  +, writes (20 November 2010):
 i cant remember a name for it but basically your looking down, when yo look down everything looks smaller. your average size, or is 5 and a half inches average? sometimes larger males can cause pain to their partners and thats a touch thing in a relationship - if you cant share that intimacy because your partner is too big. dont worry your perfectly normal :)
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reader, Brooklyngirl +, writes (20 November 2010):
 We are our own worse critics! You are perfectly normal! Stop worrying!! You will be fine!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (20 November 2010):
 And what exactly do you think is the average penis size?
You are perfectly normal in that department, NOTHING to worry about. As for your friends, boys your age tend to lie, and as for what you have seen, you have never seen a picture with you and your friends all erect and next to each other. Theirs might be big, yours might look just as big, only you don't see that.
Wait for a partner and loved one to tell you what they think before you judge yourself. It is none of anyone elses business anyway.
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