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writes:Can I ever have really good sex again? I had sex with a younger guy I was 29 he was 18 and we would have wild sex for 2 or 3 hours each night. It was the most physical connection I ever felt with a man but we weren't dating. Just having sex every day. He had a huge package and knew how to use it. It was straight up porn sex. We did this for about a year or just over. Its been 3 years since we did this. I was in a relationship with someone the past 3 years and he didn't have sex like my past guy. This new guy lasts 5 mins if I'm lucky. He wasn't really into it. Had a hard time keeping it up and all that. I assume we just didn't have that connection. Not a great physical connection. I wonder will I ever feel that unleashed animallistic free spirit sex again? Do you think more than one person can have that connection with another or is it one of a kind?
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (5 August 2008):
 With subdued apology, I must totally disagree with most who answered. This woman is apparently in her early 30s with decades of life ahead.
My answer is that you will certainly have great sex again and probably with men or a man more compatible in age and otherwise. When it's right, keep it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI agree I can't ever compare men to this kid. He probably took Viagra for sure. I don't know if 3 hours even exists with out help. The thing is even if it lasted 20 minutes that connection we felt was one I haven't had before him nor after him. I had been with someone for a few years and its not even been ok with him. I think its just the lack of love. Well maybe even just a lack of desire for the man. I think the comment of being in love is correct as well. I was with my daughtersfather for 8 years and it only got better each time. I think I just made the wrong choice in my last boyfriend. I will hold hopes for another satisfying relationship in the future. Thanks auntys and uncles.
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (5 August 2008):
 When you meet someone you truly love the sex will be amazing x
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reader, Replacement  +, writes (5 August 2008):
 It might be one of a kind, or it might not. You could have just gotten lucky with this particular guy, and had that intense physical connection. I think that sort of connection is rare- 3 hours a night for a year? His age was probably helpful.
If you're looking for amazing sex, maybe start looking at younger men again?
But there are more important things than sex. I think you've been spoiled by him and I really doubt any other guy will stack up to him in your mind. So maybe the best thing to do is to move on from this sexual experience and focus ahead, focus on unique things about men you date rather than comparing them to him. Maybe he doesn't have a huge package, but is great at oral, or maybe you feel a deep emotional connection which is more intense than your previous physical one? Look at each man individually, it's not fair to hold them to this 18 year old male standard.
Good luck.
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