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writes:Friday I was in a wreck. I was going to surprise a friend. I was driving and my best girl friend was in the passenger seat. I wasn't using electronics, that was her job. We were about 2 hours from home and 20 minutes from the play. I t-boned a guys passenger door. Someone ran a red light. I got sick at the hospital and have been depressed and I never want to drive again but I never cried. No one was seriously hurt and both cars are totaled. I hate myself. I never want to get in another car! Everyone says I need to, but I'm terrified. My parents still haven't yelled at me or anything!Is this normal? Should I have cried? When will they stop treating me like a porcelain doll? How can I recover?
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reader, Swimbabe2015 +, writes (13 June 2013):
Swimbabe2015 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I have gotten back behind the wheel since the wreck. I still jump at stoplight and have some nasty bruises. I don't have PTSD(I went a talk to someone) I feel much better. Thank you all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2013): I too think It does sound like PTSD as female anon suggests.I was a pillion rider and had a serious motor bike accident while in a different country, bike skidded at quite a speed and we were flung off down the duel carriage way, skiddding with the bike, sparks in our faces from the metal and cars skidding to avoid us( must say there was hardly any traffic at this time thank goodness. When we finally stopped skidding (everything was in slow motion effect)I saw this big lorry coming straight at us down the carriage way at speed, This was the scariest moment of my life, I jumped up from the middle of the road (did'nt even know if we were injured) I dragged my boyfriend who was spewed in the middle of road still in shock to the side before this lorry could run over us. We walked away from that accident uninjured but very scary moment and guess what! we got the bike working and had hundreds of miles to still ride to get home from our road trip. I am certain I had PTSD i was very tearful and nervous and jumpy even a fear of dual carriagways ( all the way home) but had to get on the horse again. What we do from these scary experiences is learn ( even if it's someone elses fault, we become more aware of what other drivers are doing. It's not always a bad thing.
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reader, Got Issues  +, writes (10 June 2013):
 Your parents probably got a horrible shock, too, and are just relieved that you're alive. It sounds like it was the other driver's fault, so it wouldn't do anyone any good for your parents to shout at you. Maybe you want them to because you're in shock and you want to feel something other than numbness. It's difficult to see your parents afraid, too, so maybe it would make it easier for you to see them angry.
One of my friends had a car accident when she was 18. The car basically went off a cliff with her and a friend in it. It wasn't a massive drop but the car landed upside down about one foot away from a massive boulder. They both broke bones but walked away from the wreck. The result could have been very different. My friend was a shell of her former self for a long time afterwards and refused to get into a car. Nobody knew how to help her. She finally had counselling and now is back behind the wheel and able to talk about what happened, but it took time and work.
I agree with the other poster that you're probably suffering PTSD and should talk to someone. It's only been a few days, you don't have to make any decisions about getting into a car or not. Nobody should be telling you that you have to get into a car again. They haven't been through what you've been through and they need to back off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2013): It sounds like you are experiencing PTSD - Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and also in shock right now. The best thing for you to do immediately is to see a therapist/psychologist who specializes in treating PTSD. Fortunately there's plenty of information about your condition out there and it is fully treatable! I assure you, you WILL be well soon. :)
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