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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:dear cupid, i need your help. my boyfriend left me a couple weeks ago and im not quite over it. im in college and loving it but i really want a relationship ... i don't even think its to get over him because i am ... i was mad at him but im not now even though he left me for his ex girlfriend and hasn't talked to me since. not to sound conceited but he wasn't all that cute or rich or smart or popular or anything and he didn't have too much luck with girls hes not a total dork but i get attracted by cute rich smart popular guys but i don't really care much for them i really am usually single. but this guy has been a friend for years and we just decided to make it more and he left me (for two years before he thought i wouldn't give him a chance because i was out of his "league" which sadly is probably the truth i love that boy to death but hes just not for me or so i thought) and when we did and he left me to wait on her, she has a boyfriend now i don't understand why he would do that? she is terrible to him and i absolutely adored him and gave him all my attention but made sure not to smother him ... i gave him space and never threw around the L word so not to seem pushy ... i did everything to make him happy i gave him all of me and it hurts that he left me and hasn't talked to me since. but now i want a relationship, i really loved what we had but no guy seems appealing to me for a relationship even though there are lots of guys who i should be eCstatic to date and just adore me and treat me amazingly and i like them but i just don't want anything with them. the one who left me is the only one who i could have ever seen myself with in six months or a year or even in ten years and he didn't exactly treat me great but he made me content and thats all i needed and he had a great personality and i could open up to him and be comfortable with him and really be myself no makeup and he still thought i was beautiful, but so do the other guys and another guy is closer to me than he ever was and i should want this so bad but i just don't. i don't understand why i don't want this dream guy? he is so perfect and so are two others but i just don't want any of them. its not that i want my old guy back because i wish him the best and if waiting on her gives him something i never could so be it. i hope i can be here for him when he gets hurt cause she will break his heart like she always does. i don't want him back i want to feel the way about somebody else that i felt about him. just one call and he makes my day, one smile or kiss and you'll never get the smile off my face and we have so much in common and can hold a real conversation. he doesn't judge me for anything. thats what i love about him. i just miss the way we used to talk ... all night long for hours and hours with no real topic, just the most random things. i miss that most. will i ever feel that way about anyone else? will mr.right ever come along?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2008): I believe that there are many Mr. Rights out there for us, as in there is a Mr. Right for first love, a Mr. Right for mature love, a Mr. Right for Married and Raising Kids love. They may not all be in the same person, and very often they are not. Some people are more suited to us at certain points in OUR life, and when we pass that stage, they are then not the best, they are not Mr. Right for that moment in your life.
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reader, Helpful Hillary  +, writes (28 August 2008):
This is the situation girls wish they never find themselves in. The problem with this problem is that it’s going to take time. You may feel that this lad your going on about is perfect but he’s clearly not perfect for you. You say that your ex wasn’t a looker and things like that but maybe that’s what appealed to you more. Am not saying go an look for a ugly lad but you might of saw in your ex that looks aren’t everything to you anymore, your wanting a relationship that will last and that the lad wouldn’t be a total idiot and go running back to the ex so look deeper. The problem with getting with a great looker is that if you fall out or think that your slowly losing interest the one thing that is great with them is their looks and that isn’t a great reason to stay with someone! Try being single a little longer and enjoy going out with friends and meeting new people find out what makes you want to go for certain men. Then hopefully mr.right will come along and takes all your worries away! I’ve got my mr.right and I couldn’t be happier but I did have to go through a couple of wrong’ens to get to him. Also if you feel that one day you find him but things start to get abit tense between you two after a while remember that’s normal. My friend let her boyfriend go and she regretted it. And as for the ex leave him to it. Never show your bothered but try and make friends with him because that’s sure to get on her nerves! Good luck
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