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writes:I am in love with my Husband's brohter. we are married for 3 years. but when i entered there house he was the youngest and the charming person who always loved me, adored me and did what ever he can for me. i have lots of problems with my in laws coz i think they dont like me. now it is affecting me and my brother in laws good relationship. i love him but we didnt have sexual relationship with each other. He is very strong man. I was very angry one day with the problem and we had fought . now he is not talking to me, very rude to me. I said sorry to him. he is still said he will not talk to me forever. i miss him . i love him. what should i do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2008): help ..actually yes they are taking care of my daughter. the thing is that they speak ill language. other wise they are fine. like it hurts u what they say.
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reader, Helpful Hillary  +, writes (28 August 2008):
This isn’t right. You married his brother and he should be the object of your love. You may feel that you’re in love with his brother but you swore to love your husband. To tell you the truth I’ve been there done that. I felt that I was more attracted to my boyfriends brother, I always wanted to be around him and he had told me that if I didn’t get with my boyfriend he would of asked me out. I was over the moon until me and my boyfriend had a massive fall out and I saw how much I loved him. Now me and his brother I real good friends and it feels great.
What gets me is that you didn’t mention your husband once in this problem; you didn’t talk about what he’s like. If you feel that you can’t get over his brother you can’t drag your husband along for the ride, his heart is invested into you now. Think hard about if you love him and if the answer is no then leave it’s your only opposition. Both of you will be miserable together if you stay and that’s not living a happy life marriage is meant to give. But if you see that being with your husband is what you want then focus on you two no one else. As for the in laws things like this happen and sometimes you never know why, the only thing you can do is be yourself. Maybe you could offer to take your mother in law out once in a while to a place you know she will love. As for the brother your in love with he’s not to be trusted. He would hurt his own brother just to get what he wants so am not surprised he’s acting like a child. Family is meant to come first but he clearly doesn’t care. If you win the in laws over I bet he will want you speak to you again. But the situation your in now isn’t fair on any of you. Decide what your next step is. Either to stay with him and love him or to leave.
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